How are you today?

[Berlarutlarut]

wow this thread has more posts than the JIS one

[whatever]

haha yeah right, but when youre grown up in not so happy family, you might be grateful just being single.. boys or men might be nice just for friendship, im not really sure about their loyalty

When that happened, good times, bad times, best thing you can do is to be eventually grateful for what you have. That's all, or you'll end up living in misery. I want to make a confession, I used to be and maybe still a little bit scared of marriage. I see many marriages crumbling into pieces, I find many men cheating (from small - large scale) -not that women do not cheat too but this is the case I mostly found-. But then hey, I see many people live a happy life with their family, I see many happy older couples too, I started thinking, why am I scared of this? They can do it, I can do it too. If our parents failed, in any way we see it, what we can do is to learn from them and be a better person for our children. Be a better mother, of father.

Easier said than done, yes, but at the very least I am willing to change and at least try to be better each day. Most importantly, women can't turn me on, well they can, sometimes haha, okay serious. I can't, am not planning or willing to change my sexual preferences because of those bad things I see or happened to me.

Just try to stay positive and remember that grudges are a waste of perfect happiness! So, smile, V!

[vania~]

thank you whatever! hihi
yeah i agree with you, men cheating and so women can do the same.. in my head im afraid of both lol, im afraid if im getting bored and lost interest of my lover.. and i dunno if it happens to my bf
i do try to learn from my parents and parents of my friends too.. they do look happy but the real story behind the happiness is really messed up
anyway.. ive been single since like forever, and just tried being in relationship this time and not really enjoy it, the not nice things that i expect, is happening xD
i prefer to be single again, being happy go lucky person and just make friends, without thinking that someone is going to be jealous of my friend or without getting anybody hurts

haha i get it, once i read an survey said that nobody is 100% straight.. i admit myself isnt 100% straight too but i still prefer men, hopefully i will find one that really 'click' with me lol

[LittleMonster]

......... But then hey, I see many people live a happy life with their family, I see many happy older couples too, I started thinking, why am I scared of this? They can do it, I can do it too. If our parents failed, in any way we see it, what we can do is to learn from them and be a better person for our children. Be a better mother, ....... V!

Not too add more scares, there are many couples stay in the marriage simply because for the sakes of the kids, because the wife has no jobs and choose to stay with her husband even tho she lives in hell, because the image of being a divorcee seems more frigtening than living a fake marriage, because " its just too late" , because they are afraid to lose certain status, and bla bla bla. So many people has "the other person" and still married to their spouse.

so its like gambling, people say

[whatever]

Trust me, Vania and LittleMonster, I know where you are coming from, hence I could say all those I wrote previously and I totally understand what you feel and what you think about this. That is a sad thing I know and I believe people have their own ways to deal with their problems and what I can do is to learn from them. It makes me feel insecure sometimes but I can't let it get in the way of what I want in my life.

Vania, as with your relationship, if you are not enjoying it, just leave it. Why I said it easily because it looks like it is what you want. Let yourself find whatever you are looking for. But, before you decide something try to sit down and talk with your boyfriend about what you feel, it will make you feel better and you don't leave him in the dark if you ever break up with him.

So, what are you people doing tonight? It's Friday night .

[LittleMonster]

Trust me, Vania and LittleMonster, I know where you are coming from, hence I could say all those I wrote previously and I totally understand what you feel and what you think about this. That is a sad thing I know and I believe people have their own ways to deal with their problems and what I can do is to learn from them. It makes me feel insecure sometimes but I can't let it get in the way of what I want in my life.



So, what are you people doing tonight? It's Friday night .

you know where i am coming from? Should i be worry? Lol
ah friday night? No diff because i will be working tmrw sigh

A girls nite out?

[vania~]

Not too add more scares, there are many couples stay in the marriage simply because for the sakes of the kids, because the wife has no jobs and choose to stay with her husband even tho she lives in hell, because the image of being a divorcee seems more frigtening than living a fake marriage, because " its just too late" , because they are afraid to lose certain status, and bla bla bla. So many people has "the other person" and still married to their spouse.

so its like gambling, people say

and thats exactly what happen to my family, and somehow i feel like living hell, no kidding at all, when my parents fight its like war world 3, live in front of my eyes haha..
i feel bad for my mom but at the same time its annoying that she always told me about her problems, her complains about my father to me, instead of talk to my dad. they have problem in communication and it does affect me. actually i prefer they seperate.
but somehow i still grateful, there are many families that have worse story than mine

[whatever]

LM,
Yes, you should be .
Well then, stay here and have a little chat with us. Just sit back and relax, maybe watch a movie?
With me, I don't normally go out (like hang out at the malls or whatever) when it's dark, unless it is for family event, with family or when I stay at a friend's and want to get dinner or something. Especially weekend, it is time for me to work on homework routine.

Now you know I'm anak rumahan ya jeng

[whatever]

Vania,
Is it possible for you and your parents to sit together and talk? I am really sorry for what happened with you and your family. That is really sad.
Your mom needs you, be strong, okay? And try to talk to your dad too, not argue just talk about anything... Just to get closer to your parents and let them know that there is someone (or other people) who is affected too.. Sometimes parents do not realize that, that they do have children who actually watch them and want them to be happy, too. And do not realize that they have hurt us children so bad while all they want to to do is to make us happy.

[LittleMonster]

My cable is still broken its been almost a week geee.
but i survive a life without tv, so far.

i have story about cough syrup :
today, i went to pharmacy to buy kids cough syrup, i guess i must look confuse there so the girl there asked me how old the kid is. Then i told her that actually it is for my puppy.
she did stare at me like im some kind of crazy. Lol

Then i failed cekokin the monster cough syrup, naughty puppy, it spilled on the floor.

vania : anak rumahan? Me too, but just because im too old and get tired easily lol

[vania~]

Trust me, Vania and LittleMonster, I know where you are coming from, hence I could say all those I wrote previously and I totally understand what you feel and what you think about this. That is a sad thing I know and I believe people have their own ways to deal with their problems and what I can do is to learn from them. It makes me feel insecure sometimes but I can't let it get in the way of what I want in my life.

Vania, as with your relationship, if you are not enjoying it, just leave it. Why I said it easily because it looks like it is what you want. Let yourself find whatever you are looking for. But, before you decide something try to sit down and talk with your boyfriend about what you feel, it will make you feel better and you don't leave him in the dark if you ever break up with him.

So, what are you people doing tonight? It's Friday night .

yeah actually i talked with him about this, like 2 times but he blame me because im inexperience in relationship, and he said i should learn together with him. which i think is super silly
but i will talk to him again for sure

friday day night, im going to watching metro tv at 23pm my friend in the office said the topic is interesting https://www.facebook.com/AntiTankPro...72874436175977

what about you whatever?

@little monster: you wont work full time tomorrow, will you? anyway i like about saturday is the street wont be so hectic like friday lol

[LittleMonster]

Oh vania, you have no idea.....saturday traffic is just as worse!

And i think you shouldnt waste mOre time with him if you neither love nor happy with him, but only if youre sure ofc

[whatever]

LM,
Aha! That reminds me when my cat (he is gone now), sick I bought him Bodrexin for kids, orange flavour. Cut it into half and mix it with water and cekokin ke kucing aku. Hahahaha... I even used minyak kayu putih for my other cat (she is gone, too), when she just got an accident ketabrak sepeda. She hated it haha...

Anyway, too old?? Are you 70 or something?
And you can watch movies on laptop kan... If you like, if you can...

Vania,
I think he is sweet that he wants to help you learn together with him.
I'll be working on um... a theoretical framework this weekend and now listening to Indonesian Idol too. Yes listening ha ha.

[vania~]

@whatever: i tried so many times to my parents, they ignore me all the times, they think im just a little kid that know nothing.. my brother planning to 'runaway' because of this, and me too im trying to escape, find a job somewhere thats quite far from my parents after my financial is good
so its ok i guess

im just anak rumahan too, i prefer just stay at home, lazying around.. watching tv...i like to cook something when i feel bored... im easy going too if my close friends drag me somewhere, i will be with them

@littlemonster: no local channel too?
what? your puppy having a cough? is it possible?? i have dog since i was toddler but i never knew that dogs can have cough mhahahahah

[whatever]

@whatever: i tried so many times to my parents, they ignore me all the times, they think im just a little kid that know nothing.. my brother planning to 'runaway' because of this, and me too im trying to escape, find a job somewhere thats quite far from my parents after my financial is good
so its ok i guess

Classic. You know Gossip Girl? I like it cos in some ways it portrayed kerumitan kehidupan (I know it is fake, don't worry).
Oh, you have a brother? That's good. You two can always be together and talk about life. Means you are not alone!

Btw, now I'm yawning hahaha