Ladies Beware - "Hidden" gigolos
Okay, first of all, I gotta say that this is some kind of an outlet for me to vent. I just want all the ladies to learn from my mistake.
When a dude says his salary is late and he needs money, think, don't just give money to him. Cause if you start doing that, it will become your obligation, until he took 3 million from you within a week and LEFT!
Lesson 1: Never ever lend any money to a dude, seriously, he's a dude, he should be able to save more money than us girls, I mean unless he's a metrosexual, gay or a tranny, he doesn't need Brazilian wax or get his nails done every 2 weeks, I'm not being sexist, but it's the truth, girls have to spend more money to look 'normal' lol.
Lesson 2: Again, NEVER ever lend any money to a dude you're casually dating!
Lesson 3: It doesn't matter how he looks, or what background he has, or his race, btw, the jerk is bule, I'm mixed but I'm still Asian. SOOOO... Do NOT give in and trust a guy just like that, even when he's hot. Everything is so instant these days, that we forgot how to be romantic, how to enjoy the moment, getting to know each other better, let him lead, let him call and say how much he misses you etc etc.
We always have time for this girls, I know we're sick of games, but we should always have time for this, by the end of the day we need a regular guy who understands our lil weird ways and still loves us.
Lesson 4: If it happened, let it go. You will get more money than what he owes you, and what goes around comes around 3x worse. You could sleep well at night while he'd be haunted by his own guilt.
Lesson 5: If it happened, at least you enjoyed it. Was it worth the money, maybe not, but hey you got laid, then off to a new better guy who is a non-douchebag and still be sexual (I'm still waiting for this type of guy by the way, it's easier said than done, especially in Jakarta).
Lesson 6: I know we are independent and we want to keep it that way, but we have to realize that relationship is NOT about ourselves, and that we should meet halfway most of the time, and let the dude do all the work couple of times. It's okay, you won't lose him, he's a hunter, he knows his way around.
Lesson 7: So you have good intentions and you were being sincere, and you expect the person you're connecting with to have integrity and conscience and heart to appreciate you, no, expect nothing instead.
Lesson 8: Last but not least, NO, it's NOT your fault. He will try to bring you down and blame you, and then justifies his actions/inaction and make you feel like you're a piece of dirt. Don't let this bother you, he's a friggin' loser.
...Yeah.
Last edited by MsTantrum; 02-05-10 at 17:54. Reason: +to
THIS IS SPARTA! Oh, wait no it isn't [awkward silence]. SORRY! [echoes].
Oh dear, If a guy friend of mine will ask me to lend him some money, I will certainly do, with regards to his reason but If the guy I am just casually dating-what??? Message is clear dear, don't give him that money and dont see him ever again!
No guy, in the right state of mind, will borrow a girl a money in a casual dating stage. He is suppose to impress you!
"Wanna go out for a dinner?" Uhh... btw, can I borrow 1 mil rups? I really need it.-Looser!
Feeling better? Good.
I know this, but I wanted to believe the guy has integrity not to do such things.Originally Posted by kverz
WAY better lol.
THIS IS SPARTA! Oh, wait no it isn't [awkward silence]. SORRY! [echoes].
Hm my ex bf lent some money from me around 5 or 6 mils idr. I gave it to him (yes, i was so blinded with love).
And at the end we broke up (6years ago) he only give me back 1/2 or 3/4 total from the money he had lent. lol
"Lesson 5: If it happened, at least you enjoyed it. Was it worth the money, maybe not, but hey you got laid,"
Now there is a great attitude. Positive reps for you.
"then off to a new better guy who is a non-douchebag and still be sexual (I'm still waiting for this type of guy by the way, it's easier said than done, especially in Jakarta)."
Not much criteria here. I think I can fill it. Im a non-douchbag and can "still " be sexual. Not sure what the "still" is for but so far no need for viagra. Its not saying much about guys in Jakarta if this is hard to find although I know some douchbags who I assume are still sexual but dont know any non-douchbags that aren't.
"Lesson 7: So you have good intentions and you were being sincere, and you expect the person you're connecting with to have integrity and conscience and heart to appreciate you, no, expect nothing instead."
Great advice. Where there is no expectation there can be no dissapointment.
Another lesson learned. Yep yep.
THIS IS SPARTA! Oh, wait no it isn't [awkward silence]. SORRY! [echoes].
Thank you :-D you gotta take the good sides in everything, right? lol
lmao! True, but what I'm trying to say is, it's hard to find a good guy who listens to you, and be with you, be there FOR you and then you'd want to sleep with him. I dunno if I make sense.
It will be painless. lol.
Last edited by MsTantrum; 03-05-10 at 00:24. Reason: just because
THIS IS SPARTA! Oh, wait no it isn't [awkward silence]. SORRY! [echoes].
Take the Rp3m as 'buang sial' money.
Besides, if it takes only Rp3m for someone to reveal their true colours, consider yourself lucky! It's better to have taken place now than later on when you had been involved with him for a considerable amount of time.
Last edited by gottalovepuppies; 02-05-10 at 18:51.
Sorry to hear it didnt work out for you, sounds like you've taken in your stride, so good on you!
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