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    Default is 17 years too big of an age difference?

    Please no judgemental comments!

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    No, even i prefer older than younger one
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    How long is a piece of string?

    Some people consider it to be just a number; others shun away from it as a socially repugnant (almost semi illegal) condition in a couple. For me, age difference is very relative on yours and your partner's mentality and what you both expect out of the relationship.
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    If you don't want people to judge, don't ask the question. This is not math so there's no right or wrong answer, only opinions based on individual judgment.

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    If both people are mature, probably no problem. If the girl is 18, and the guy 35, then I often see big compatibility/expectation issues. If the girl is 25 or over, then usually not so much of an issue. If the girl is 10, and the guy 27, then year, BIG problems.

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    40 and 57 .. that is totally fine.

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    Yeah, Nimbus is right ... answering your question either "yes" or "no" implies a judgment. So I'll say "sometimes."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaime C View Post
    If both people are mature, probably no problem. If the girl is 18, and the guy 35, then I often see big compatibility/expectation issues. If the girl is 25 or over, then usually not so much of an issue. If the girl is 10, and the guy 27, then year, BIG problems.
    It's also what I think, more you accumulate life experience less it matter.

    And there is always the difference between the physical and mental age....
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    if you ask is 17 years is a big difference ...then i might say yes. but but but... as long as the conversation runs well, then why bother what other might think?

    17 years difference, you two might have different fave movie/singer/songs. he might love the movie platoon while you might have no idea who tom berenger is. he might be a freddie mercury fans, while you think queen would only be britney spears. there might be generation gap between you and his friends , or him with you and your friends.
    you might get judged as getting "electra complex' , he might be teased as pedophil for dating you. ......

    i guess only you two can make your own judgement.
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    Dont worry what anyone else thinks. If your both happy then its not a problem. If anyone says anything just tell them its not their business.

    The fact that you have asked it here, in my mind, makes it look like you are not happy with the difference. Only you can decide.
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