Thats rubbish from the british consulate - we have been through this process for the same reasons as you are. you just get a form fill it out pay the money and you will be asked to Prove your the childs father (DNA test) as soon as you compile the paper work and pay the money it will take six to eight weeks to process. Do yourself a favor and keep this secret from the indonesian side then your daughter has full indonesian rights. There was a thread about this and i contributed so you didnt look very hard. Let me see if i can find the link for you.