Lonely expat life for single women - Is it true? Where did u search..

**jim69** · 14-09-12, 08:42

Originally Posted by Puspawarna

So you weren't quoted out of context, is that right?

No what i said is what I said. I feel it tskes a strong type of women to come to a foreign country alone. I admire them.

What exactly are you trying to prove or say?

**Lumaca** · 14-09-12, 08:52

Originally Posted by bad_azz

LOL, my take on it was quite the opposite, especially the guy with the 1-hour-girlfriend in the hotel this evening- I bet he could not shed his pants fast enough. x

That certainly explains Sarongs' "Easy-access" :P

**Puspawarna** · 14-09-12, 14:11

never mind .... deleting my post

**Puspawarna** · 14-09-12, 14:29

Let's try that again, at least a little piece of it. I have PM'd jim69 to explain in more detail why I insisted on pressing the point - because I misread something he said earlier, basically. Anyway, the part below is true, in my view, but I also don't think it is a big deal.

Originally Posted by jim69

No what i said is what I said. I feel it tskes a strong type of women to come to a foreign country alone. I admire them.

What exactly are you trying to prove or say?

In post #12 you accused lantern of taking other people's words out of context - including your words. It appeared, upon reading that post, that you wanted to disassociate yourself from your words, once Lantern quoted them.

There is no question that words can be quoted out of context - politicians are notorious for fighting dirty using that tactic. But I don't see how Lantern did anything but quote you accurately. As far as I'm concerned he is innocent of trying to twist your words. You said it, you believe it, and you stand by it. That's fine. But so is what Lantern said.

**jim69** · 14-09-12, 17:30

enough, I am out of this thread.

**Puspawarna** · 14-09-12, 21:36

Originally Posted by jim69

enough, I am out of this thread.

Me too - but I think it's important to note that jim and I have had a conversation by PM in which he's been quite gracious.

**ednolb** · 14-09-12, 23:21

Originally Posted by Puspawarna

Me too - but I think it's important to note that jim and I have had a conversation by PM in which he's been quite gracious.

Hey..been travelling with work. Just want to say i appreciate this forum just to be able to have a soundboard to bounce off. One can get way too introspective sometimes... All good . i am sure everyone will respect everyone at the end of the day no matter what color, creed or religion.....thanks..

**mer2012** · 15-09-12, 23:33

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**topsykretts** · 21-11-12, 19:09

i found this thread extremely thought-provoking and completely relate-able.

i'm a mid 20s, female expat in jakarta. i'm ethnic chinese but grew up in australia (so i have asian looks, dodgy aussie accent).

the point is i came to jakarta not knowing anyone. i struggled to make friends. the locals in the office ostracized me (i am the only female expat, and many many years younger than my male expat counterparts). also, i am nothing like them - i'm not muslim, i drink etc. it has remained that way to date.

outside, when i get thirsty and head to the bar/club for drinks or to check it out, i get mistaken to be a 'working girl' (and am usually approached by much older man), because i look asian. this is also despite the fact i usually go there in my work attire. it is only when they receive a blank stare or a rejection in aussie english in return then these men realise that i am not a working girl.

i've since made a couple of local friends. it has been indeed very frustrating. i do want to meet fellow expats especially ones around my age. because where i come from (australia and singapore), none of my friends have gone through this experience and none can share or relate to the life i lead here or the issues i face here.

it is a very lonely life here.

**travellingchez** · 21-11-12, 22:39

Have you joined any clubs or anything? They are good ways to meet people. I do the Hash most weekends which i found a great way to meet others.
Also try InterNational. They have lots of different types of gatherings where you can easily meet other expats. Sign up to the mailing lists to get details.

Also quite a few different sports clubs if you are into sports.