ok ladies answer please, its about number

**sweetmaria** · 21-08-12, 08:34

Originally Posted by pimawola

wow i could not believe it. u were 24 and ur partner was 50 how does it work?i mean what about your parents, friends and your social life?
i just amazed although u dont get married to him

Originally Posted by Howie

O.K., Not a ladie, but I like to break the rules. Age IS just a number. But having things in common is a must. Often life experiences and memories of similar times are great binders in relationships. When I'm talking to younger folks (and I'm not that old) and they have no reference for many things I remember, there are likely things they just won't understand.....and explaining a global perspective can make one feel old.

@ OP and Howie, I've always been an old head on a young body. Even my face is older than I actually am. I don't fit with boys of my own age and always find myself in a circle of older guys who found it difficult to talk to women despite their age.
PS: don't have the same problem with my female friends, cause they're also in the same boat as I am.
Like most indigo kids, I talked about things much more advanced than my peers and that caused me a lot of grieve. Being bullied or taken as a nerd, or all sorts of nasty nicknames. Not to mention how boys were afraid of me because I was smarter and how they couldn't accept it when I said something witty. Older guys can accept that.
My physical shape also takes its own toll. I'm not slim and I have never been slim. When other girls were still flat chested and looks more like a boy, mine is already curvy and ready to be plucked (biologically). Not just once that boys mistook me as a college student when I was still in my 6th grade(elementary school). So...... I just don't fit being with boys of my own age.

How does it work between my ex and I?
First, it's not about the money as most people think about young ladies going out with older men. His maturity attracted me and what he could do to me in bed. It didn't work between us because I was not ready to settle down and he lived sooo far away from my home country. Was not ready to leave my family, my work, and my friends at that time.
Now, my husband is 10 years older than I am and he completes me in whatever way one could ever think of.

I love him and i would not trade him for anyone else in the world.

**pimawola** · 21-08-12, 09:50

Originally Posted by sweetmaria

How does it work between my ex and I?
First, it's not about the money as most people think about young ladies going out with older men. His maturity attracted me and what he could do to me in bed. It didn't work between us because I was not ready to settle down and he lived sooo far away from my home country. Was not ready to leave my family, my work, and my friends at that time.
Now, my husband is 10 years older than I am and he completes me in whatever way one could ever think of.

I love him and i would not trade him for anyone else in the world.

oh my God your last words just so sweet...

i wish you be happy forever with your husband.

**Sari.D** · 23-08-12, 09:08

I have a 13 year gap with my husband, to be honest it has never been an issue. EVER. I think the only issue is in your head

Don't worry too much, if you feel like he is a good match for you - go for it.

**Rosanita** · 28-08-12, 05:14

Same old same old. But being a girl, I don't think age is my consideration in my relationship as long I get comfortable with. I don't mind with younger man, as long as they're not a boy. But having a younger partner could be a pain in the ass too, too much fun, nothing serious. So i made my rule, any age between 3 years younger and 5 years older than me would be proper. Beside, I want my partner to be "working properly" too. If they are 5 years older then me, well, they have got to be good. Any younger? They have to know what they are doing.

**srikandi** · 28-08-12, 05:48

Originally Posted by pimawola

i just wondering..

do you have a problem if your boyfriend or your husband has a big different number in age?
if yes, how old he should be? and give me the reason.
if not give me the reason also.

why do i ask such a question above?because actually i don't have problem about number. since men who have been approached me up to 35 and my age is 23. can you believe that? lol...
but isn't easy like its sounds. because a lot of people care of number. and of course it makes me uncomfortable to announce who is my partner.

have any suggestion?
Thank you

Well, in my opinion, it's not about number, but how you can mingle well with each other. I've dated a guy 4 yrs younger than me (I'm in college, he's still a highschooler), and no, it didn't work because we didn't share a same perspective. I've also dated a guy 6 yrs older than me (I'm in high school, he's in college), and it also didn't work so well (he dumped me cuz i'm "too pure", for short).

But now at work, i have many close friends older (like 4-10 yrs older) and we mingle with each other just fine. Hang out together, sharing our stories. And i wonder "why is this working now?" Well, i guess i've broaden my knowledge about things and try to be more wise around them (if not mature). But idk if it's still gonna work for relationship.. My bf and I are in the same age (he's 8 days older than me), and we suit each other just fine.

**pimawola** · 08-09-12, 00:14

Originally Posted by srikandi

Well, in my opinion, it's not about number, but how you can mingle well with each other. I've dated a guy 4 yrs younger than me (I'm in college, he's still a highschooler), and no, it didn't work because we didn't share a same perspective. I've also dated a guy 6 yrs older than me (I'm in high school, he's in college), and it also didn't work so well (he dumped me cuz i'm "too pure", for short).

But now at work, i have many close friends older (like 4-10 yrs older) and we mingle with each other just fine. Hang out together, sharing our stories. And i wonder "why is this working now?" Well, i guess i've broaden my knowledge about things and try to be more wise around them (if not mature). But idk if it's still gonna work for relationship.. My bf and I are in the same age (he's 8 days older than me), and we suit each other just fine.

hihi ok ok i understand, just like what i said above. i was just wondering

**Melody** · 09-09-12, 05:28

LOL I have had husband 15 years older and have had 15 years younger...LOL its a number ...sometimes the older ones have been more alivee than the younger ones...it just depends on your tastes and if you have some things in common..not to have anything in common is a disaster....young or old

**pimawola** · 09-09-12, 13:19

Originally Posted by Sari.D

I have a 13 year gap with my husband, to be honest it has never been an issue. EVER. I think the only issue is in your head

Don't worry too much, if you feel like he is a good match for you - go for it.

ya, i will not think about it since so many of you said that

Originally Posted by Rosanita

Same old same old. But being a girl, I don't think age is my consideration in my relationship as long I get comfortable with. I don't mind with younger man, as long as they're not a boy. But having a younger partner could be a pain in the ass too, too much fun, nothing serious. So i made my rule, any age between 3 years younger and 5 years older than me would be proper. Beside, I want my partner to be "working properly" too. If they are 5 years older then me, well, they have got to be good. Any younger? They have to know what they are doing.

hmmm souds good to have standart. like how many years our partner be, but still its out of our hand right? hehe still its good

Originally Posted by Melody

LOL I have had husband 15 years older and have had 15 years younger...LOL its a number ...sometimes the older ones have been more alivee than the younger ones...it just depends on your tastes and if you have some things in common..not to have anything in common is a disaster....young or old

yes..and i think my taste is the older one

**ScooterIndo** · 10-09-12, 02:55

just to join in this thread and give a male perspective i am 44 and my wife is 38 we have been together since 99, in a lot of ways she is actually a bit more grown up than i am (wink). I agree that age is just a number i have previously dated 30+ year old women that acted like spoilt little kids, very childish selfish and immature needless to say those relationships havent lasted long and i once dated a 19 year old who was so perfectly mature, focused, and very advanced well beyond her years - it was impossible not to fall in love with her hook line and sinker - its a long story but she eventually married someone else, and broke my heart.

**pimawola** · 10-09-12, 19:49

Originally Posted by ScooterIndo

just to join in this thread and give a male perspective i am 44 and my wife is 38 we have been together since 99, in a lot of ways she is actually a bit more grown up than i am (wink). I agree that age is just a number i have previously dated 30+ year old women that acted like spoilt little kids, very childish selfish and immature needless to say those relationships havent lasted long and i once dated a 19 year old who was so perfectly mature, focused, and very advanced well beyond her years - it was impossible not to fall in love with her hook line and sinker - its a long story but she eventually married someone else, and broke my heart.

thats always nice to hear anybody's opinion about my question. those are who don't care of number make me more comfortable to be with (even just for friend). and its really really opened my eyes that so many people dont care of it.