US Mom Indonesian Dad

[Lisakalia]

While traveling in Bali. I got pregnant by an Indonesian guy. I am a female US citizen and he is an Indonesian citizen.

My baby girl was born here in the US where I currently live.

Her dad and I are not together but he wants to see her. We are not married or planning to get married. He and I had little contact until after the baby was born.

Could I have problems if I take her to visit her dad in Indonesia? Is it possible for him to try and get parental rights?

I dont want to take her there and have problems returning to the US. I want to have sole parental rights.

When she was born she was given my last name and her dad was not listed on her birth certificate.

Any help/advice is much appreciated.

[nickie]

...Is it possible for him to try and get parental rights?...

In Indonesia, a child born outside of the marriage of mixed-couples is not entitled for parental relationship with the father. He/she only has civil law relationship with the mother. The name of the father is not showed on the birth certificate. Although it is not easy and may take some time but it is possible for the father to get parental rights. According to Citizenship Act 12/2006 article 4 point (h), children born out of wedlock to a foreign mother, where the child is recognised (proven by court decision) by an Indonesian father as his child and this is declared before the child reaches 18 (eighteen) years of age and unmarried, are Indonesian citizens.

Just my two cents, I'm sure the others will help you.

[redsnapr]

Have him visit you.

[Mas Fred]

Why isn't he on the birth certificate?
Sounds like there is a lot we are being 'not told'.

[Lisakalia]

@redsnapr I was thinking the same but as far as his finances he cant afford to fly here.... so was thinking i would rather fly myself there then fly him here.

But if there is a chance him or his family could take her from me then flying there is out of the question!!

[Lisakalia]

He is not on the birth certificate because he didnt want to be involved with me or the baby. He wanted me to have an abortion. He only started contacting me 2 months before the baby was born ..

[john madden]

Mas Fred asks:
"Why isn't he on the birth certificate?
Sounds like there is a lot we are being 'not told'."
It seems to me that the OP gave all the info required to have her question answered.

[Kratos]

aight, he asked you for abortion then now he wanted to see the baby....and you let him....why?...

@redsnapr I was thinking the same but as far as his finances he cant afford to fly here.... so was thinking i would rather fly myself there then fly him here.

But if there is a chance him or his family could take her from me then flying there is out of the question!!

Its heading to that direction lady.....seen lots of similar cases....
send him a ticket instead...

[Puspawarna]

@redsnapr I was thinking the same but as far as his finances he cant afford to fly here....

Buy him a ticket to fly to the US, if you can pay the airline directly. I wouldn't send him money for the ticket, though - that's just asking for trouble.

On the other hand, having him visit you could get complicated too, depending on whether he already has a passport and is likely to get a visa. This sounds to me like the sort of visa application those perpetually cranky folks in the US consular office just love to turn down, with a few loud insults thrown in for free.

[Davita]

Lisikalia welcome to the forum.

By your own admission you have stated:

1. It was holiday romance when pregnancy occurred.
2. He wanted you to have an abortion.
3. The father has not shown any interest until recently.
4. Presumably he does not support the child.
5. He doesn't have enough money for a ticket.
6. You have been shown how, within RI law, parental right could be transferred.
7. Outside of law, the risk of the family absconding with the child is high.
8. The risk of ransom demand is high.

Given the above I would sit down and seriously question your motive and attention to this matter (i.e. Can anything good come from this venture?) .

Just a little respectful fatherly advice.