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  • Harry08
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    Do these girls are friend with me because im a
    tourist and i have more money ?
    Lets put it this way. If a girl cant pay for her food but asks you for a bottle of perfume, something is not right in this story.
    When chicks start asking for presents, no matter how friendly they seem, I just walk away and save everyone some trouble.
    Lets say you don't care and you are well aware it's just a trap. Don't worry about it. Especially if you like the company. Look at it as a service and nothing more. Just don't swallow the hook and get all emotional

    For example, I met really nice people in Bali (locals) and the word friend was used all the time (very common in Southern and Eastern world and not where I am from). Same time, we all knew it's just business and were honest about it. One sold me drinks, others took care of surfboards, beach chairs, transportation, food and so on. I needed this, they had it and the price was right (and most importantly, I liked them). Regardless, we still had absolutely fantastic time chatting, eating together, surfing and hanging around the island or just chilling on the beach for weeks (they all worked at the same spot).
    Most importantly, nobody ever asked me money for nothing. I learned a bit about the local culture and local life. I even met their families so I think it was honestly good time for everybody and I am planning to see them again.... huh.. sorry for the emotional rant.

    Point is, take your time and stay frosty.

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  • Arsenius Sutarjo
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    Originally posted by MyNameIsPants View Post
    How you can know they don't want friendship but something from me ?
    How i can make the diference ?
    its very easy, e.i : if i want to buy something from EU, I'll just give you the money in advance, not just ask you to buy first, or telling you have miserable my self, remember the group of you call as a friends even has knowledge about nice perfume ( i guess its quite branded) but still complain about has no money to buy food, poor ppl doesnt think about luxury things while their primary needs isnt enough.

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  • MyNameIsPants
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    How you can know they don't want friendship but something from me ?
    How i can make the diference ?

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  • tel522
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    Be careful my friend , you will many people women and men , in tourist areas who see foreigners as walking atms , unfortunately in many developing countries it is the same , you will need to spend a longer time to understand the people and their motivations .

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  • Arsenius Sutarjo
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    Originally posted by MyNameIsPants View Post
    Hello people ..
    Im from europe and go in hollidays in Bali and Gili about a month ago ...
    i fall in love for Bali, Indonesia and made few friends who i still chatting with ..
    I chat with a man and few girls ... one of the girls asked me for a perfum from where i come from
    to bring it when i come back in few months ... i said yes ok, so i asked to my other friend (in another city there)
    if she want something from me too perfum, makeup or clothes or other ... we talked a bit then she told me her pay
    was not good then we talked .. and finaly she told me she as no money for food at this time ...
    of course i said i will help her and stuff im not that rich but if i can help with amounts i can afford i will !
    But a question stay in my head, i don't think it is but i want you guys confirm it : Do these girls are friend with me because im a
    tourist and i have more money ?
    Maybe is rude to ask that kind of question but im totaly honest in these relationship i hope is the same for them too ...
    I want to be good with people who need but i don't like to be taking as a dumb also.
    I really want to make real friendship there. Without conditions or interest.. is it possible and how ?

    Sorry for my bad spell not fluent in english.
    Hi Thr,

    Welcome to Indonesia,
    About the local, regarding your story, frankly they are not interested in friendship at all. About how to make good relationship with locals, thr are many ways which i cant describe it one by one. good luck.

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