View Full Version : How do you react facing any harasment or abusing against women in indonesia?
angelapowiro
17-07-10, 00:29
yes, how do u face it ? coz i ever been harrashed (almost) near bundaran HI
really harrashed in west jakarta....saw an exhibitionist then some days the harrashment happened.......i think women always be the best target for criminals to do their action here. we have weak guards and no cam everywhere like in singapore :(
maybe next time i will bring spicy bottle to take care myself as defensive tool
Yes Angela, it happened to me too once, many years ago.
I was walking alone in a street, it was a jalan tikus, but the closest way to my office, and I always took that road every morning. Which right after that day I swore I wont do that again, and prefer to walk further to avoid that ugly unpleasant experience.
And there was that psyco, he probably was waiting for every girls that will pass that street. There is a motorcycle park over there, so it must be his. I notice it from the far, and when I got close to him, he just opened his zip, and take his property out, laughing at me, saying nasty things, like : "cewek, liat sini dong, enak nih.."
Urgghhhhh ..!! If only I brought any pistol I really would shot that psyco. Luckily he didnt do any closer movement, and he just standing where he stood, still playing with his thing (I think, I didnt bother to look), saying every dirty talks he could recall.
I almost run, but I tried to not to, just speed up my walk. I dont think it'll be wise if he knew I was afraid. He could do anything worse.
It took quite long time for me to pull my self back together when I got to my office. Really not a good experience.
Alia, you should have walked seductively up to him like you wanted him, then kicked him in the gonads. That would generally stop any more playing with self from the offender.
Yes Jester, you right, I should have done that. It surely would make that psyco learn his lesson.
I'll remember your advice for some other time for my own sake, but hopefully there wont be some other time. Once is more than enough to add the story in my life, and I sincerely wish no other girls would experience such thing.
At the time like that, normally we girls would only think the fastest way to get out of there, immediately. And sometimes, couldnt even think clearly enough whilst we would feel very threatened for our honor.
Yeah, I wouldn't think it was a nice experience. Not really about honour, but more about safety.
Alia, you should have walked seductively up to him like you wanted him, then kicked him in the gonads. That would generally stop any more playing with self from the offender.
Bad idea. The sicko could be dangerous and there's no telling whether he's armed. The satisfaction is not worth the risk.
He was armed...
but he was busy using them to play with himself.
Flashers get off on the typical reaction most women give them when they expose themselves. Best to just keep walking look at his "property" (I like that) laugh and remark, "That little thing? Is that all ya got" and leave. Of course if its huge that wont work and if your into that kind of thing you could set up a date.
angelapowiro
17-07-10, 16:06
haha...a date for what ? :)
Flashers get off on the typical reaction most women give them when they expose themselves. Best to just keep walking look at his "property" (I like that) laugh and remark, "That little thing? Is that all ya got" and leave. Of course if its huge that wont work and if your into that kind of thing you could set up a date.
You can always go "Is that real or that's your mom's dildo?"
You can always go "Is that real or that's your mom's dildo?"
Answer of the thread.
i wonder do they sell pepper spray or you can mix your own deadly poison spray at that "ding dong" the next a flasher comes
Just ignore him and ready to run if he makes a move towards you. I don't think he will run fast with his little man exposed..:)
Ray
This is one of those unfortunate experiences that one can't really do anything about. It is infuriating...One man once tried to lift my skirt and to this day, 20 years later, I am very uncomfortable wearing anything but long pants :(
I think that you are right. Many years ago a young cousin of mine was walking through the woods when this guy stepped out from behind a tree and exposed himself. She looked for a couple of seconds and then said "Is that all you've got? The guy ran off. Later, I happened to hear that police were taking a statement from her so I couldn't resist the temptation of dropping over to her house and saying "Hello Loretta, didn't you recognize me in the woods?" Should have seen the cop's face :-)
Flashers get off on the typical reaction most women give them when they expose themselves. Best to just keep walking look at his "property" (I like that) laugh and remark, "That little thing? Is that all ya got" and leave. Of course if its huge that wont work and if your into that kind of thing you could set up a date.
Wait a minute, Exbrit, you mean that guy in the woods was YOU ??
Ewwwee.. You're sick sick sick !!
I am very uncomfortable wearing anything but long pants :(
Damn it! Can I move up from your heels about a foot please?
There once was a nun who was on her way through the woods to the convent when a guy jumped out from behind a tree and raped her. Ya I know! When he was pulling up his pants he asked her what she was going to tell the nuns when she got back to the convent. She said, "I was walking through the forest to get back home when suddenly a man jumped out from behind a tree and raped me twice", unless your tired.
Are you crazy? Never had the need to do that. Our family was notorious for practical jokes
Wait a minute, Exbrit, you mean that guy in the woods was YOU ??
Ewwwee.. You're sick sick sick !!
Are you crazy? Never had the need to do that. Our family was notorious for practical jokes
Hehehe.. I was joking too..
I wasn't. Why would you even joke about that exbrit?
globetottermom
05-08-10, 08:58
i wonder do they sell pepper spray or you can mix your own deadly poison spray at that "ding dong" the next a flasher comes
I believe pepper spray is illegal here although I would carry one myself if I bought some from the States. Jakarta is full of these kinds of people and I've had my share of encounters with them before. I once landed my elbow on someone's nuts because he tried to put his hand on my lap when I was in High School - would love to put use my knees but that was a bit hard since he sat right next to me in a Metro Mini. Ugh!
alia, thats what we called "Penjahat Kelamin"
yeah they are nasty...
True Tianajune,
I remember a friend of mine who is graphic designer made a funny picture of him with the badge of KPK, but instead of Komisi Pemberantas Korupsi, it stands for Komplotan Penjahat Kelamin. Just for joke of course..
i remember when i was 14, a guy grabbed my ass... he tried to run but i hit him on his back... rah!
I wasn't. Why would you even joke about that exbrit?
Because my niece was somewhat streetwise for her age and was not at all upset about it. Her parents insisted on calling the police. Everyone except the guy taking the statement knew that I was joking.
happen to me once, i was in highschool, in that bloody MetroMini he was stood behind me and rubbing his little thing, so i just him my best punch ever.
Peper spray, u can get it in Pasar Senen, there are lots store which sell Army attributes, they even sell what we called ehmm electric gun? *CMIIW
travellingchez
01-09-10, 08:22
When me and my friend were walking back to our house one day a pervy older guy on a motorbike suddenly started driving on the other side of the street and grabbed my mates boob. He did all this while driving so just drove straight off. We were both so shocked that how dare he do this in broad day light. If I'd had chance (if he hadn't driven off) I would have smacked him with my bag (which was full of beer cans).
He obviously thought this was exceptable as we were Bule.
Saying that something similar happened to a Batak friend of mine when she was leaving work at the hospital. Some guy in his car wound down his window and start making lewd comments towards her about her going to bed with him. So she picked up the biggest rock and threw it through his car window. He drove off after that. Have to laugh serves him right, it will teach him to not to try it again (or at least not anywhere near the hospital). Can't imagine what he told his wife.
So she picked up the biggest rock and threw it through his car window. ... Can't imagine what he told his wife.
Erm. A disgruntled hooker did it when he rejected her advances.
Erm, erm. An overflying eagle crapped on his car.
Erm, erm, erm. A gang of belligerent Catholics thought he was an FPI member and swung a dead cat at him.
Erm, erm, erm, erm. The FPi thought he was a hindu and lobbed a bulls head in his direction.
Erm5. Kids
Erm6. Parents.
Erm7. FE teachers.
Erm8. Giant hailstones.
Erm9. Etc, etc...
Do I get a cigar?
The best defense?.........a smile
If someone grabbed my rather ample boobs, I would grab their wrists and make them hang on to them.... see who got the most embarrassed first... heeheeheehee!!!
... well you get a bit desperate at my age!!!
The best defense?.........a smile
Smile ..??? This is the weirdest defense I've heard when you have to deal with unpleasant thing like this.
You may run, you may look other way, you may prepared with any 'weapon' you have, maybe you bring a pepper spray or something, or with doing anything intent to not encourage him to continue what he is doing to you, but you cant smile..! That idiot will think you are welcoming him.
Serious harassment laws are long over due here, especially in the work place. Woman are constently being harassed at their office and afraid of reporting it and ultimately loosing their job.
Men who have, money, power and authority tend to treat their staff like wrag dolls sometimes.
Men who have, money, power and authority tend to treat their staff like wrag dolls sometimes.
And not just men!
<Speaking from experience ... maybe.>
Yes, I don't think I would complain about a women with money, power and authority... Funny how that is..
Reminds me of what is that movie ? Demi Moore and Michael Douglas,...... "Disclosure", yes ?
You maybe have personal experience, Grat ..?? Do tell please ..
What about you, Alia ? Do you tend to treat your males subordinates, just like that ??
Oh, absolutely not Kratos. I'm not fllirtings at work, its not professional, you know ... (wink).
You maybe have personal experience, Grat ..?? Do tell please ..
Actually I have two. But I'd have to whisper the details ... in your ear.
Actually I have two. But I'd have to whisper the details ... in your ear.
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(speechless....)
Firstly, i don't condone this behavior.
However I don't really understand why someone would get so wound up about witnessing an exhibitionist.
However I don't really understand why someone would get so wound up about witnessing an exhibitionist.
No, you wont understand it, because you will never be a woman and placed as an object of a sexual harassment.
Hey, Gratilla gets sexually harassed too.
And sometimes he doesn't like it.
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