Malam Pertama.... [Archive] - Living In Indonesia Expat Forum

cheche

22-01-12, 01:00

Anyone want to share????? :D:welcome:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TaZD8biDM2M

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUbySNTYU_k

nice songs..... hehehehehe

travellingchez

22-01-12, 10:20

Yeah I'll think you'll find that malam pertama (sex for the first time on the wedding night) isn't pertama any more with a lot of couples.

naughtygab

22-01-12, 12:15

hmmm.... i think what happen on the 'first nite ' should not really be shared eh? people always say" i don't kiss and tell" ... and you're expecting " i fXXX and tell"
or maybe you should share your first nite experience huh?
Plus I agree with TC..

i have tons of first nite jokes

technologic

22-01-12, 19:39

i'd rather keep it to myself. i mean, it's not something you can share with other people. unless, you want some jokes about it, there...naughtygabs has tons of em :D

Nimbus

24-01-12, 01:24

A public forum is probably not the best place for this. Just my 2 perak.

ricky_id

24-01-12, 02:11

Just because some people insist on doing their malam pertama post-marriage doesn't mean they'll always end up better off than the bejad couples. Well it's a matter of personal choice of course if some people choose the former, because some members of this forum have stated openly they'll do it after they get sworn before their cleric. Wish them good luck of course.

ScooterIndo

25-01-12, 02:21

Yeah i was going to say that......................what is malam pertama ??? didnt we all have our malam pertama after the 3rd or 4th date ???

babygirl

30-01-12, 21:31

Yeah i was going to say that......................what is malam pertama ??? didnt we all have our malam pertama after the 3rd or 4th date ???

you have your malam pertama even after the 1st date ;)..

ScooterIndo

31-01-12, 04:23

you have your malam pertama even after the 1st date ;)..

siapa bilang ?? I am not that kinda boy :sad:

Vie

31-01-12, 11:24

Malam pertama is first sex after marriage if you did it before marriage then it would be only called as first sex.

ponyexpress

31-01-12, 11:41

No offense to the OP. I don't think anyone will be happy to share their sexual lives with you here. It's just too much information for them.

rabbit_39

31-01-12, 11:41

Vie

31-01-12, 12:09

First sex after marriage regardless of whether the couple have done it with each other prior to marriage?
First sex after marriage regardless of one or both of the couples have done it with other people prior to marriage?

Which is it?

if couple have done it before marriage then it's not malam pertama, just the other night atau malam yang lainnya..
if one or both the couple have done it with other people prior to marriage but they both never had sex eachother before so YES, it's still malam pertama.
that's from my understanding, CMIIW.

teena

03-02-12, 19:46

I havent did it before :( I am not yet married..hieks

Alia

07-02-12, 14:27

Which is it?

Which ever it is Rabbit, choose one and start typing. :tongue2:

sweetmaria

13-02-12, 14:21

Vie

13-02-12, 18:45

I'm not a virgin when I married my husband and I've lived with him for four years before deciding to wed him.

First sex after wedding was postpone until a week because we were very busy and I was ill, too.

if you r indonesian what a great courage to admit that you were not virgin before married maria :)

sweetmaria

14-02-12, 11:48

if you r indonesian what a great courage to admit that you were not virgin before married maria :)

I actually am Indonesian. Full 100%.
I lost my virginity to a local jerk, but found someone who took me as his wife because I was as crazy and as adventurous as he was and that we value the same principle, i.e.: if you want to buy a car, you have to test drive it first. Marriage is once in a lifetime, would you risk it without testing it first?
so, .... VOILA!!!

Vie

14-02-12, 11:55

I actually am Indonesian. Full 100%.
I lost my virginity to a local jerk, but found someone who took me as his wife because I was as crazy and as adventurous as he was and that we value the same principle, i.e.: if you want to buy a car, you have to test drive it first. Marriage is once in a lifetime, would you risk it without testing it first?
so, .... VOILA!!!

hmmm dun want to comment about this, i try to always be in "grey" area hehehe but i remember one of our member also quote the same things about the test drive. anyway i hope the best for you and your husband as well !!

sweetmaria

14-02-12, 15:07

hmmm dun want to comment about this, i try to always be in "grey" area hehehe but i remember one of our member also quote the same things about the test drive. anyway i hope the best for you and your husband as well !!

Thank you.

Cheers :high5:

firmanasampaiz

11-03-12, 03:29

"Malam Pertama" is first time sex after marriage ceremony.... by you and couple... the time to lost your virginity blood (if you still that)

jstar

11-03-12, 05:36

if you want to buy a car, you have to test drive it first. Marriage is once in a lifetime, would you risk it without testing it first?
so, .... VOILA!!!

That whole test drive argument is such a BS cliché.

First of all, you are not born 'being good at sex'. It is something you can learn. Also, you need time to understand the preferences of your partner and of yourself.

Secondly, the first sexual experiences are often not very successful. Let's face it, a young guy comes prematurely and a girl probably won't come at all because of the nerves. So, will you break up the relationship because the 'test drive' was not satisfactory?

Last but not least: look at the divorce numbers, marriage is not once in a lifetime for most people. Malam Pertama in the true sense however, is. And if a guy is pushy all the time and can not understand a girl wants to keep her virginity till her wedding day, I wonder how much he really cares about her.

Doesn't mean I am against extra- or premarital sex. In case of consenting adults; great, go for it.