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Ishtar^Summer
09-02-09, 14:55
please rank this based on your preferences of guys that you like most to least
Personality
Good body
Humour
Sensitivity
Good looks
Brain
My Rank :
Personality
Brain
Humour
Sensitivity
Good Body
Good Looks
My Rank :
1. Humour
2. Brain
3. Personality
4. Sensitivity
5. Good looks
6. Good body
1. Personality/attitude/outlook/ambition
2. Brain (but he can't be arrogant about having a good brain)
3. Humour
4. Good looks
5. Sensitivity
6. Good body
That's true Black adder, there are a few that should be added, but I was just working with the options available at the time of publication.
honesty and loyalty are vital!
From what I see, I can drop my efforts to stay fit! Good... where's the fridge :D
My preference (in a perfect world of course)
Sensitivity (He understands when I am having my pre-mense)
Brain (Must be post-grad, preferably in computer science or environmental law)
Personality (Not a schizophrenic)
Humour (He must understand jokes in at least 4 languages)
Good Body (anything above 75kgs in whatever form, but no hunchbacks)
Good Looks (as long as he doesnt look at the mirror more than me)
stt_cibubur
16-02-09, 20:45
Personality - (Nice,polite, caring and charming)
Good looks - (Cute, handsome looking)
Brain - ( I dont like dumb ass)
Good body - ( prefer average size body, not too skinny and not too fat)
Humour - (sometime need to have some joke)
Sensitivity - (over sensi is not good)
Honestly,
1) Conversation (Above all else)
If you can keep me talking, then you can keep me drinking. Believe you me, after 6 or 7 rounds of "Incredible Hulk" to keep me jovial....hell even the bartender stand a chance of looking like Halle Berry to me, even if she is only 4ft tall:D
Honestly,
1) Conversation (Above all else)
If you can keep me talking, then you can keep me drinking. Believe you me, after 6 or 7 rounds of "Incredible Hulk" to keep me jovial....hell even the bartender stand a chance of looking like Halle Berry to me, even if she is only 4ft tall:D
I think the conversation part would be a mixture of personality+brain+humour+sensitivity (having a bit of all of these). :-)
I think the conversation part would be a mixture of personality+brain+humour+sensitivity (having a bit of all of these). :-)
To some extent...you could actually possess all these traits but lack the ability to "relate" or "deliver" during the conversation. Where would that leave us...you with the absolute best..."mixture of personality+brain+humour+sensitivity" (having a bit of all of these....OR more) and shy to speak????:confused:
After a several minutes of this...Its a done deal for me, I'm not in the mood to pursue the matter any further. So we could pretty much call it a night and head our seperate ways.:(
From a guys point of view for women and I would assume you ladies would want the samething in your men. No. 7 should be honesty and no. 8 should be loyalty, but hey if I am speaking out of turn and none of you women want those things in your man, hey go with the list above.
I Agree with you BlackAdder...Love... honesty...loyalty ....the rest take and accept just the way he is ......that my basic to start the relationship
Yang penting cocok ......
Tidak usah macam-macam, suka sama suka aja
Yang penting cocok ......
Tidak usah macam-macam, suka sama suka aja
Hee..hee..hee..you really sound "wong Jowo";) awon awon kelakon toch..
Ishtar^Summer
17-02-09, 08:35
Hee..hee..hee..you really sound "wong Jowo";) awon awon kelakon toch..
its alon alon lieverd
niet awon awon :)
Ishtar^Summer
17-02-09, 08:39
Anyway
categories above are just generally base
honesty and loyalty are part of personality i do think so
a guy with good personality i dont think will cheat on u
To some extent...you could actually possess all these traits but lack the ability to "relate" or "deliver" during the conversation. Where would that leave us...you with the absolute best..."mixture of personality+brain+humour+sensitivity" (having a bit of all of these....OR more) and shy to speak????:confused:
After a several minutes of this...Its a done deal for me, I'm not in the mood to pursue the matter any further. So we could pretty much call it a night and head our seperate ways.:(
I can't imagine someone with all of these (or more), especially the personality part, become a shy person. Maybe it depends what kind of personalit he/she has. Although I agree with BA as well about love, honesty and loyalty. I've met one guy before who had a lot of these: mixture of personality+brain+humour+sensitivity. But in the end I found out how much of a jackass he was, he was totally lacking HONESTY, LOYALTY and LOVE. Let this be a lesson for the girls: beware of Ad guys specially the creative ones, they get TOO creative. hehehe!
Natalia123
17-02-09, 16:49
Yang penting cocok ......
Tidak usah macam-macam, suka sama suka aja
LOL! I agree with you, Wong Jowo!
I can't seem to stop laughing reading your post here! :D
Hee..hee..hee..you really sound "wong Jowo";) awon awon kelakon toch..
alon-alon...
sorry Nelin for correction.
I can't imagine someone with all of these (or more), especially the personality part, become a shy person. Maybe it depends what kind of personalit he/she has. Although I agree with BA as well about love, honesty and loyalty. I've met one guy before who had a lot of these: mixture of personality+brain+humour+sensitivity. But in the end I found out how much of a jackass he was, he was totally lacking HONESTY, LOYALTY and LOVE. Let this be a lesson for the girls: beware of Ad guys specially the creative ones, they get TOO creative. hehehe!
Lets put it this way...How do you discern whether a person has personality, brain, humour and sensitivity without first engaging in a conversation with them???? I don't possess the ability to look at a person and surmise all their characteristics without first hearing their conversation and then....viewing their mannerisms.
I think its important to understand where a person has been in life to get a clear view on where they are going. How to measure a person's dreams, ambitions or passions without first hearing he/she speak on it?
If you've known struggle, strife, sacrifice, pain and disappointment in relationships and you find that through conversating, I also understand and have felt these things...then we have common ground and a foundation which we can build upon right? I mean we got a something to work with.
Now the flipside is this....imagine you meet a guy and think wow, he's hot and attractive, funny...seems to have a good personality, social and very intelligent (able to talk about a host of topics), nice body (please refer to checklist if I've left things out) and when you finally get some quality time alone....he just can't seem to stop talking about his car, you tell him you going into labour and he says..."oh yeah thats nice, but let me tell you about the interior".
I'm sure you all would be like...ok, buddy times up, I gotta go...you take care now. Oh and btw, is that someone out there breaking into your car??? Bet you get his attention then wouldn't you agree?
When speaking with people to ascertain their wants, needs and desires you can determine something about their character correct? A man who struggles everyday to make the world a better place, may be the man who will struggle just as hard to see that your relationship stays afloat.
A woman who is caring and endearing to her peers when they are down, could possibly be the woman who will always remain supportive of you when the rough times get thick.
I don't believe in fairy tale relationships, nor do I believe that relationships are a walk in the park. I believe that its hard work and that true love places demands on the male and female equally. It will test your patience and level of understanding, your willingness to compromise and for men, your ability to admit you're wrong, for women it test the ability to forgive and how strong your resolve to forget is.
So who can honestly say that when they first fell in love...the thing they did most was what.......................?????
Talk like crazy, everyday all day all night and till the sun came up. Having the ability to talk about anything and everything, there is true freedom in being able to express yourself to your partner.
In talking to you, you can gauge my ability to listen as well as be heard, this is very important. Often times, we as men tend to be stubborn (its just our nature) doesn't make us good, bad or indifferent; its just how we were made. The same holds true for women, you to can be demanding and may test the patience of men...but how is this resolved or overcome?
By us maintaining the want and willingness to communicate. A person could have all the traits listed above, but fail to be able to communicate.
So I ask you all (ladies)....
You can Love him to death....but what if you can't talk to him?
He can be the funniest person on earth, but must mask his feeling with a joke when when he's uncomfortable? But he has a good sense of humour.
He can express sensitivity, to something or someone, but that is no guarantee that he will be able to relate to you.
He can possess the knowledge to read books in 10 different languages with a IQ as high as Mauricio's, again, that is no guarantee that he will be able to read you?
Without the ability to communicate, even the best of the best relationships will fail due to lack of communication. So barring all the talk about alcohol and Halle Barry...First and foremost to me, is can I talk to you...If I can talk to you, and you can talk to me, the rest we can piece together over time. And realize this, love is not stagnate. Its ever evolving so things like..........honesty, trust and love. They are subject to change and evolve or deteriorate as the relationship dictates.
Communication is the heart of every lasting relationship...
OMG......Three pages already and not one mention of being rich and/or powerful.
I must watch the wrong movies.
Old, ugly, stunted, obnoxious.... but loaded, David
They are simply deluding themselves that those two things do not at all enter, consciously or unconsciously, into their calculus.
OMG......Three pages already and not one mention of being rich and/or powerful.
I must watch the wrong movies.
Old, ugly, stunted, obnoxious.... but loaded, David
As usual... :):):)
Thanks for it.
Ishtar^Summer
18-02-09, 10:48
OMG......Three pages already and not one mention of being rich and/or powerful.
I must watch the wrong movies.
Old, ugly, stunted, obnoxious.... but loaded, David
They are simply deluding themselves that those two things do not at all enter, consciously or unconsciously, into their calculus.
Sounds cliche,,
Yes...
But With All Respect Without Being Naive..
Money Cant Buy Anything
I Experienced it By My self
:)
Sounds cliche,,
Yes...
But With All Respect Without Being Naive..
Money Cant Buy Anything
I Experienced it By My self
:)
I think you meant....
Money Can't Buy Everything (which is true)
But it CERTAINLY is the biggest MOTIVATIONAL FACTOR isn't it???
Ishtar^Summer
18-02-09, 11:45
I think you meant....
Money Can't Buy Everything (which is true)
But it CERTAINLY is the biggest MOTIVATIONAL FACTOR isn't it???
Not For Me :)
ISHTAR, whether you realize it or not, each one of us is, to a great extent, the product of the opportunities/conditions created for us by our parents. Four of those opportunities are nutrition, education, healthcare and living conditions, all of which require $$$. The more $$$ you have, the better nutrition, education, healthcare and living conditions that you can offer your children. $$$ may not matter to you, but it will matter to your children's well-being.
In an increasinly globalized world, your children will not be competing only with Indonesian children for education and jobs. The competition for top education and top jobs is and will become more and more global. I, myself, a child of the 20th century already face global competition. Imagine your children born in the 21st century. So money may not buy you happiness, but it can certainly buy your children better nutrition, health, education, etc. When chosing a husband, you are also chosing the father and chief financier of your children.
I am increasingly convinced that it is these rather naive attitudes, coupled with religious imperatives to marry, marry early and have children, which have contributed not only to the over-population of Java, but also to the sad excess number of people in Indonesia whose economic and educational prospects are not good. I find it particularly irresponsible for parents to saddle their children with the expectation that it is the children's responsibility to provide for their younger siblings.
I agree with mauricio, money certainly makes the quality of life a lot better!
Without money, I would never have been able to travel to so many places and learn a lot of things and gain memorable experiences that i share with my husband and kid. when we both grow old, we will have a lot of "Remember when we were in..." anecdotes to talk about.
Ishtar~summer...I think you had a typo and meant...
"Money can't buy everything"
If true, I agree.....
Money does not buy Happiness, the cure for Terminal Illness and......?......and.....?......Nope! that's about it.
I got nutin else! :p
Cynical David
Lets put it this way...How do you discern whether a person has personality, brain, humour and sensitivity without first engaging in a conversation with them???? I don't possess the ability to look at a person and surmise all their characteristics without first hearing their conversation and then....viewing their mannerisms.........
Communication is the heart of every lasting relationship...
Wow Kuya BJ, you seem like an expert on this!! :)
Wow Kuya BJ, you seem like an expert on this!! :)
Far from an expert dear....that's why you are married and I'm not lol.
I think if I were awarded the level of "Expert" it would be in the field of...all the things you "Should Not Do" in a relationship.
Experience dear...just plain old experience, I've made just about every mistake possible and some more than once. I am a self professed "Repeat Offender" and on more than one occasion I have been admonished for my transgressions. How's the saying go..."Been there and done that"...very true in my case.:D
1. Humor
2. Personality
3. Brain
4. Good look
5. Sensitivity
6. Good body
Ishtar^Summer
18-02-09, 20:36
I agree about this quality of life thing
that u can travel all over the world,got decent education,delicious food on ur table,u can have it all with one single word
MONEY
but please
scroll up my post and read the bold part
money is the biggest motivator
thats not true (at least for me)
what will u feel when u find out ur dream girl/guy left u for someone richer?
Or left u coz u gone bankrupt?
Because for her/him money is the BIGGEST motivator
again im not being naive
just being honest
and im sorry for lack of my english ability
I agree about this quality of life thing
that u can travel all over the world,got decent education,delicious food on ur table,u can have it all with one single word
MONEY
but please
scroll up my post and read the bold part
money is the biggest motivator
thats not true (at least for me)
what will u feel when u find out ur dream girl/guy left u for someone richer?
Or left u coz u gone bankrupt?
Because for her/him money is the BIGGEST motivator
again im not being naive
just being honest
and im sorry for lack of my english ability
Understand dear, speaking for myself totally...While in Indonesia, I saw a culture of pre-arranged marriages, and social monikers being passed around all day...
Hence the word "ga level"...now what does that mean, and further what does it imply?
Not saying that all women are gold diggers but I have yet to read a post that would suggest that a guy with no income, possibly homeless was in a position to be wed off anytime soon. Again...more and more threads seem to linger around the issue that a foreigner (especially a bule/gue loh/otherwise white) is the key to a woman's salvation. This is an absurd idea. But it seems to be etched in the minds of many woman (not all). So Mauricio simply pointed out the obvious UNstated fact that Money comes into the picture (a person financial standings is most probably determined before the second date) and is a significant factor. If not for woman than its definitely a concern for men (under the assumption that woman are always looking at the wallet).
Now lets reverse the Polarity...what if a man had needs that he expected the woman to meet...i.e a car (luxury and 4whl drive), house + Condo, membership to the golf course, weekly trips to the habberdasher, collection of swiss timepieces, season tickets to world wide sporting events of the woman? Wouldn't women be raising hell?
This by no means is an issue solely existent in Indonesia, trust me the same bodes true for just about every country and the premise is the same, the woman is looking to marry into a better position(socially/economically) or otherwise.
Brings to mind the movie w/ Woody Harrelson/Robert Redford.....ummmm Indecent Proposal (if you haven't seen it, watch it and then ask your bf/husband what would he do?)
I've had my heart broken and dreams stolen and didn't have to come to SEA for that to happen. My divorce cost me everything I had and projected earnings for that matter (money I had yet to make). She didn't leave for someone that was richer...he was a AAA League (minor league) baseball player (lot of talent but a bad attitude). I guess he just happened to be at the "wrong place at the right time"....meaning he kept my side of the bed warm when I wasn't.
Maybe you are not looking for the "Pie in the Sky", but that's the way of the world. And its a fact that is rarely disputed by women, as it seems to me...Mom's would suggest marrying "vertically" as opposed to "horizontally"...would you groom your daughter to marry the garbage man?
36 posts and still no substantive comment on the attraction of male money/power from DA LADIES....do you think they all live in DA NILE?
Sorry MOD if this is considered as flaming...not intended...I'm a Gemini (the twins) which means that my own jokes just crack me up, can't help it. :D
Reflective David :rolleyes:
Natalia123
19-02-09, 08:29
36 posts and still no substantive comment on the attraction of male money/power from DA LADIES....do you think they all live in DA NILE?
Sorry MOD if this is considered as flaming...not intended...I'm a Gemini (the twins) which means that my own jokes just crack me up, can't help it. :D
Reflective David :rolleyes:
So David, did your wife marry you because of your money and/or power? :D
Natalia123...thanks for your stimulating question...I think...:o
So far, in this thread, I don't believe anyone is talking marriage.
I understood it was about the type of guys that attracted the ladies. But, to honestly answer you...my wife married me because, after about 5 years of dating, I asked her!
I had, by that time, recognized that I loved her and she loved me. That occurred 22 years ago last month, which we celebrated in Bandung.
If the question was...'did your wife date you because of your money/power' I have to direct you to my previous signature:
"Old, ugly, stunted, obnoxious.... but loaded, David'....... and let you draw your own conclusion. :):rolleyes:
...... That occurred 22 years ago last month, which we celebrated in Bandung.
Wow! Congratulations! I'm still in my 3rd year. Hope to last like you and longer :) My parents are in their 46th year.
36 posts and still no substantive comment on the attraction of male money/power from DA LADIES....do you think they all live in DA NILE?
Sorry MOD if this is considered as flaming...not intended...I'm a Gemini (the twins) which means that my own jokes just crack me up, can't help it. :D
Reflective David :rolleyes:
And Da Nile is up in Egypt...hahahahhaha... and in De Nial some of us are not :)
I just follow the thread..the rankings :)
Personally, I am not bothered if the guy have material assets, or tons in the bank. I never look at a guys wallet or his flashy car ~~ I am quite happy as long as he meets with the criteria listed in the topic header. The rest of it, just boils down to chemistry~~
Not in Denial ~~ just that love is the best chemistry in the world, but hey..cash helps ~~ bin man definitely not my scene as I doubt if I will ever meet a bin man with double degree or post grad :) in my social circle. I am not living in la-la land ;)
jennyhonse
19-02-09, 15:21
please rank this based on your preferences of guys that you like most to least
Personality
Good body
Humour
Sensitivity
Good looks
Brain
My Rank :
Personality
Brain
Humour
Sensitivity
Good Body
Good Looks
Good looks :D (Cant lied)
Good Body (A must, Coz I train 6 days a week w my trainer)
Brain (Got to be well educated)
Personality (I can always deal with this one)
Humor
Sensitivity
It's just the first thing that I saw from man, I can't lied about this one. I can't go out with the guy that I am not attractive with. Man with the good looks and good bod? it's just show me that he care and taking care him self, it's not easy to keep our body stay in shape you know?. I know that fact as I eat very healthy and work out with my trainer 6 days a week at the gym. And that is hard!!! I meet tons of hot amazing body good looking guy there and after I talk to them... mostly they have a good behavior, personality, good humor, plus they don't smoke, drink only occasionally, eat very healthy. Which is that's the kind a man that I want to be with, that have things in common with me.
So... If I think of a hot guy, I think of a man that will care to me like he care to him self.
So... that's my rate for a guy... ;)
Schooling and diplomas are not an indication of a good brain or a first-rate intellect.
Ishtar^Summer
19-02-09, 15:59
36 posts and still no substantive comment on the attraction of male money/power from DA LADIES....do you think they all live in DA NILE?
Reflective David :rolleyes:
would u please point out which post is the denial ?
Just because mostly do
it doesnt make the least that dont are in denial
Schooling and diplomas are not an indication of a good brain or a first-rate intellect.
Its true, by no means its an indication of intellect ~ but at least it can lead to a conversation which can be stretched from dissecting a frog to the even the life-span of a tset-tse fly amongst other things. whatever turns you on really :)
Its true, by no means its an indication of intellect ~ but at least it can lead to a conversation which can be stretched from dissecting a frog to the even the life-span of a tset-tse fly amongst other things. whatever turns you on really :)
Wait a sec....I thought I said "Conversation/Communication" was most important??? Stands to reason, all the physical stuff is done on sight. Everything else, is well a product of conversation:)
I Agree with you BlackAdder...Love... honesty...loyalty ....the rest take and accept just the way he is ......that my basic to start the relationship
Right Brownie.
From relationship, love will come. From eyes go down to heart. LOL so romantic :D
Mine :
Personality
Brain
Sensitivity
Humour
Good Looks
Good Body
What for a good body without personality?
I choose a good personality with not a good body..:-)
Schooling and diplomas are not an indication of a good brain or a first-rate intellect.
Thank goodness for that M.
That should have read, "...are not automatically an indication of..."
That should have read, "...are not automatically an indication of..."
Dam, I'm back in dunces corner then.:(
Rushing Doll
30-04-09, 16:39
Schooling and diplomas are not an indication of a good brain or a first-rate intellect.
Very well said!
Rushing Doll
30-04-09, 16:46
I feel left out none of the things I like are on the list:(
Good in bed
High sex drive
Powerful
Rich
and last but not least does not fart in bed....
:D:D:D
I feel left out none of the things I like are on the list:(
Good in bed
High sex drive
Powerful
Rich
and last but not least does not fart in bed....
:D:D:D
If a man had to suppress his wind breaking, in order to keep the peace with his squaw, would he still be powerful?
Rushing Doll
30-04-09, 18:09
If a man had to suppress his wind breaking, in order to keep the peace with his squaw, would he still be powerful?
Mmmmm..... now let me think about that?:rolleyes:
inipunyahanee
18-11-10, 16:53
Just found this at twitter :
Girls are attracted to 4 things :
1. Clothes
2. Jewelery
3. Money
4. ____________ Look down..... Look down Dude!!
hahahaha... ;)
Well a man has much to consider as well . I hope this example will provide some insights into the males selection process .
A man has to choose between 3 women to marry so he gives each 10000 dollars to spend as they see fit .
Woman number 1 goes shopping and buys new shoes and cloths and everything for herself and looks fantastic for her man .
Woman number 2 spends all the money on the man and buys him lots of nice things only for him .
Woman number 3 invests the 10000 , makes 10000 and gives it back to the man and repeats what women 1 did with her 10000.
In this mans infinate wisdom . Which woman did he select . The one with the biggest boobs of course
Cryptkeeper
18-11-10, 18:09
^^ Boobs is good but I'm more of a leg man..
mayasaputri
19-11-10, 22:45
^^ Boobs is good but I'm more of a leg man..
mmmmm this is lady's chat ..... and the title of the thread is asking ladies to rank .... so why do I find the word boobies here? ;)
Snowy city
12-03-11, 10:15
please rank this based on your preferences of guys that you like most to least
Personality
Brain
Humour
Sensitivity
Good Looks
Good Body
I like smart and chubby man...
My preferences: Personality, Brain, Humour, Sensitivity, Good looks, Good body
What I see in my guy: Good looks, Good body (these two are the first thing I saw before I knew him better), then Brain, Personality, Humour, Sensitivity
Result: A smart good-looking guy with sarcastic humour without sensitivity, so sometimes he is joking at the wrong time and place, which hurts my or others feeling
i will score
loyal
dont lie to me
humoris
kind hearted person
brain and ability
cinnamonroast
17-03-11, 15:20
Humor
Personality
Brain
Good looks
Sensitivity
Good six pack abs :D
mba juliana
28-03-11, 21:56
My Rank:
Brain
Sensitivity
Personality
Good looks
Humour
Good body
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