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miftaanggiangguni
11-05-11, 13:04
hello i'm newbie here..
I wanna share something about my love life. Few days ago, my bf said that, it would be better if we finished our relationship right now. It was hurt. till today, i still find my self crying at night. I try to do a lot activities, but still i can't forget him. do you have any ideas?what should i do? I'm getting stressful with this.
do you have the same experience?
share your idea here..
thanks
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Someone just broke up days before her marriage.....people responded down there...and I gave her an advice, go find other guys for a nice rebound sex.....
hello i'm newbie here..
I wanna share something about my love life. Few days ago, my bf said that, it would be better if we finished our relationship right now. It was hurt. till today, i still find my self crying at night. I try to do a lot activities, but still i can't forget him. do you have any ideas?what should i do? I'm getting stressful with this.
do you have the same experience?
share your idea here..
thanks
Maybe this will help u http://www.livinginindonesiaforum.org/showthread.php/15344-Why-girls-difficult-to-move-on-and-how-guys-so-easy-to-move-on
Because that's helping me a lot.
Good luck
i think you should get yourself busy by doing your hobby, and any other fun things such as painting, drawing, cooking etc... or check out this link -> http://www.ehow.com/how_2111466_get-over-someone.html
I know I'll draw some flak for saying what i think should be said, but so be it ....
This place is fast becoming a bloody forum for either lovestruck or heartbroken locals, strewth, what's makes you ladies think we bule don't have emotional issues but we don't usually at least make posts on Expat forums seeking help, attention and or sympathy!
Now I feel guilty as well as pissed, hope you work it out, but talk to your friends, not anonymous strangers on an Internet forum is my best advice to you ...
Salam
Bang out of order Ohm! Really you must learn to have some control over your outbursts in here.
Damn - Its redbrick time.
EDIT- I gave out too much green - my red brick principals are still intact. Hmmm. Grrr.
As for the Op...
There is not a man on this earth worth a woman's tears. Take responsibility for your own happiness. Re-evaluate your strengths and weaknesses and move forward in life. You will be so much more content :) good luck.
There is not a man on this earth worth a woman's tears.
If I might add bad_azz, the converse is also true :p
If I might add bad_azz, the converse is also true :p
You might well add that and I concur x
mrtessster
11-05-11, 20:08
Waktu menyembuhkan segalanya.
Yes of course, no name. :)
Now... (sigh) let me see....
I know I'll draw some flak for saying what i think should be said, but so be it ....
This place is fast becoming a bloody forum for either lovestruck or heartbroken locals, strewth, what's makes you ladies think we bule don't have emotional issues but we don't usually at least make posts on Expat forums seeking help, attention and or sympathy!
Now I feel guilty as well as pissed, hope you work it out, but talk to your friends, not anonymous strangers on an Internet forum is my best advice to you ...
Salam
Really, Ohm, I think you should just calm right down. Calm down, Pak. Calm down and get off your very high horse.
(Yes, here's the flak that you predicted coming your way. You were right. You like to provoke.)
Your post is heartless, rude and pompous. The thread-writer never said anything about "bule not having emotional issues".... what are you saying, man????
Here's a hint: if you're sick of hearing about "lovestruck or heartbroken" locals, then don't open threads in the Ladies forum titled....:"How to heal ourself from broken heart". Simple.
Waktu menyembuhkan segalanya.
Yes time heals all wound. I'm speaking from experience :p
Sky Garden
11-05-11, 20:31
And the new member girl is now red bricked, well done guys hope whoever did it is feeling good about themselves............ very manly.
to the Op, just take each day as it comes, as noname said time does heal, I promise you will feel better one week/month/year from today.
And the new member girl is now red bricked, well done guys hope whoever did it is feeling good about themselves............ very manly.
to the Op, just take each day as it comes, as noname said time does heal, I promise you will feel better one week/month/year from today.
I can assure you that it wasn't me ... I at least had the guts to say what I thought publically!
[QUOTE]Bang out of order Ohm! Perhaps, according to you and a couple of others, {at the moment} :whistle:
Really you must learn to have some control over your outbursts in here.
Really? .. . Would you say the same thing to our now banned member the Pimp if he had made that statement which was quite likely IMO? Or don't I deserve the same level of leeway/ empathy?
I have around the same +rep as him {with far less points lost and have never been banned}and also around the same number of posts, and you argued strongly the other day that that counted for something in his case, what is the difference with regard to my post?
Or is this just a female empathy thingy given your outrageous statement about no man being worth any amount of tears or whatever it was exactly... :mmph:
Damn - Its redbrick time. Btw what happened to your, I don't give out red bricks preferring to debate your position publically instead? ... :confused
Yourself have stated something similar to the effect of, I say what I think and/or feel, and that is my right, it is a forum for free speech isn't it, that clearly implies either positive or negative feedback may be given!
Just so happens this time I was not as empathetic as some would have liked, I am human believe it or not ...
The truth is often painful to hear!
Sky Garden
11-05-11, 21:23
[QUOTE=bad_azz;166662]Perhaps, according to you and a couple of others, {at the moment} :whistle:
Really? .. . Would you say the same thing to our now banned member the Pimp if he had made that statement which was quite likely IMO? Or don't I deserve the same level of leeway/ empathy?
I have around the same +rep as him {with far less points lost and have never been banned}and also around the same number of posts, and you argued strongly the other day that that counted for something in his case, what is the difference with regard to my post?
Or is this just a female empathy thingy given your outrageous statement about no man being worth any amount of tears or whatever it was exactly... :mmph:
Btw what happened to your, I don't give out red bricks preferring to debate your position publically instead? ... :confused
Yourself have stated something similar to the effect of, I say what I think and/or feel, and that is my right, it is a forum for free speech isn't it, that clearly implies either positive or negative feedback may be given!
Just so happens this time I was not as empathetic as some would have liked, I am human believe it or not ...
The truth is often painful to hear!
No mate, of course you are entitled to post what you want on a public forum, however here we have a new member who obviously has some trauma in her life. Not sure what Pimpin would have said, perhaps you have more insight than the rest of us. To be honest I don't care but personally I think your post was at best un needed and at worst bullying, as well as that it was in the lady's chat section which would lead me to believe she was seeking the advice of ladies/girls in the same situation or at least asking advice from the lady members who had at least been in a similar situation.
And finally "This place is fast becoming a bloody forum for either lovestruck or heartbroken locals, strewth, what's makes you ladies think we bule don't have emotional issues but we don't usually at least make posts on Expat forums seeking help, attention and or sympathy!"
Really? I beg to differ.................
[QUOTE=bad_azz;166662]Perhaps, according to you and a couple of others, {at the moment} :whistle:
Really? .. . Would you say the same thing to our now banned member the Pimp if he had made that statement which was quite likely IMO? Or don't I deserve the same level of leeway/ empathy?
I have around the same +rep as him {with far less points lost and have never been banned}and also around the same number of posts, and you argued strongly the other day that that counted for something in his case, what is the difference with regard to my post?
Or is this just a female empathy thingy given your outrageous statement about no man being worth any amount of tears or whatever it was exactly... :mmph:
Btw what happened to your, I don't give out red bricks preferring to debate your position publically instead? ... :confused
Yourself have stated something similar to the effect of, I say what I think and/or feel, and that is my right, it is a forum for free speech isn't it, that clearly implies either positive or negative feedback may be given!
Just so happens this time I was not as empathetic as some would have liked, I am human believe it or not ...
The truth is often painful to hear!
Re red bricks - you made me wish to re-evaluate my stance - as , had you quoted me correctly, would have been obvious.
Re Pimpin- I am fairly sure Pimpin would not have been insulting, I am certain that he is not a bully to broken hearted women.
Re your status in here, I only have to look at the comments in my inbox... if people chose to PM me about you rather than make formal complaints that is their choice.
Re my "outrageous statement" read the thread. You will see that I have agreed to the other poster who said that the same statement applied to men too... I was just about to edit my own post to state that same thing... agreeing with him was the easier/lazier option.
I also refer to what Kelly says... and I quote, "Here's a hint: if you're sick of hearing about "lovestruck or heartbroken" locals, then don't open threads in the Ladies forum titled....:"How to heal ourself from broken heart". Simple."
Why are you in the ladies forum Ohm, and why are you reading such posts if you find them so distasteful?
[QUOTE=bad_azz;166662]Perhaps, according to you and a couple of others, {at the moment} :whistle:
Really? .. . Would you say the same thing to our now banned member the Pimp if he had made that statement which was quite likely IMO? Or don't I deserve the same level of leeway/ empathy?
I sense bitterness and jealously Ohm, is that why you're suddenly mentioning a previous forum member in this thread...and putting words into his mouth?
Please tell me..... what is the reason? Or are you just taking a dig at him when he's not around to respond? Nice one.
Just so happens this time I was not as empathetic as some would have liked, I am human believe it or not ...
The truth is often painful to hear!
"Not as empathetic as some would have liked"??? You were very insulting to the OP and that initial post of yours was very mean-spirited.
miftaanggiangguni
11-05-11, 22:23
Thanks a lot for responds.. hope it would be helpful
I have never read where Pimpin came down on a member who had a broken heart or was emotionaly distressed. The comparrison to you is insulting and again telling, considering you know he can't answer to intimating he is low. I can't recall him ever complaining of others wanting to try to find a partner in here unless it was a troll or the poster was being obviously slimey
Oh, and take kelly's advice, keep out of the ladies section and don't read threads with obvious titles. Honestly you're like the old annoying uncle creeping everyone out, sticking your nose into everyone's business but then complaining about the smell.
Take him to Blok M, KW, perhaps some of pInk magic could be a remedy to all....
Just for clarification; there was no intent nor do I think my post was a case of bullying at all, the comments were not directed personally if read correctly, insensitive to a genuine poster perhaps, I concede that, however did you all miss my last comment in the now deleted post ...'' ...hope you work it out, but talk to your friends, not anonymous strangers on an Internet forum is my best advice to you ..''
Is that not supportive?
I stand by my point about the forum fast becoming a ''Lonely Hearts Club'' for some, the posts in that vein are increasing almost weekly, lets not forget that this is an Expat forum set up to assist newcomers settle into the Country ...
I also stand by my right to free speech and make positive or negative responses as I see fit, whether appropriate in your opinion or not, as do many others here.
We do not live in a perfect world and this forum is a microcosm of that fact.
I do not read the Ladies threads as a general rule, when I enter the site I immediately click on the ''new post' link and read from there ...
As for mentioning the pimps name and suggesting that I'm only doing that because he is not here to defend himself, get real, haven't you read the many encounters he and I have had with regard to his many inappropriate responses, leading to his banning! The reason I mentioned him was to point out the inconsistency in your post BA, between one member and another.
AS for private PM's you have received BA, like the gutless wonders who red bricked the OP anonymously, I would much rather that they challenge me or anyone else they disagree with publicly, as against hiding behind their computer screens!
The great majority of my posts have been made to assist others, long time members will know that, do some research and see for yourselves, and that fact is my primary purpose in remaining a member of this forum!
As for the baiting responses by some above ...fire away, I will not be biting!
tonymontana
12-05-11, 07:22
Wow.
Back to OP.
This article has been some help to me lately.
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/how-to-get-over-your-ex-20231.html
Also, a good friend said this to me once (substitute 'man' for 'woman'):
"The only woman that is worth your tears will never make you cry."
TM
Just for clarification; there was no intent nor do I think my post was a case of bullying at all, the comments were not directed personally if read correctly, insensitive to a genuine poster perhaps, I concede that, however did you all miss my last comment in the now deleted post ...'' ...hope you work it out, but talk to your friends, not anonymous strangers on an Internet forum is my best advice to you ..''
Is that not supportive?
I stand by my point about the forum fast becoming a ''Lonely Hearts Club'' for some, the posts in that vein are increasing almost weekly, lets not forget that this is an Expat forum set up to assist newcomers settle into the Country ...
I also stand by my right to free speech and make positive or negative responses as I see fit, whether appropriate in your opinion or not, as do many others here.
We do not live in a perfect world and this forum is a microcosm of that fact.
I do not read the Ladies threads as a general rule, when I enter the site I immediately click on the ''new post' link and read from there ...
As for mentioning the pimps name and suggesting that I'm only doing that because he is not here to defend himself, get real, haven't you read the many encounters he and I have had with regard to his many inappropriate responses, leading to his banning! The reason I mentioned him was to point out the inconsistency in your post BA, between one member and another.
AS for private PM's you have received BA, like the gutless wonders who red bricked the OP anonymously, I would much rather that they challenge me or anyone else they disagree with publicly, as against hiding behind their computer screens!
The great majority of my posts have been made to assist others, long time members will know that, do some research and see for yourselves, and that fact is my primary purpose in remaining a member of this forum!
As for the baiting responses by some above ...fire away, I will not be biting!
I think the appropriate response would have been a humble, "I'm sorry"
Doesn't need much more, really.
You don't need to do anything, your heart will heal itself. You can't force yourself to forget either, but given time the memory will cease to hurt. You're doing the right thing by keeping yourself busy. Above all, consider yourself lucky that it happens today instead of later when you have kids in tow.
Good luck.
Wow.
Back to OP.
This article has been some help to me lately.
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/how-to-get-over-your-ex-20231.html
Also, a good friend said this to me once (substitute 'man' for 'woman'):
"The only woman that is worth your tears will never make you cry."
TM
Over exxaggeration, Tony....
Never means forever, well, I dont think a single moment of cry dont exist during the process of togetherness....
tonymontana
12-05-11, 13:32
Yeah, you're probably right. Either way, it's helped me through the last little bit of my life, knowing that I didn't have to be with someone who contributed to me feeling miserable all the time.
Over exxaggeration, Tony....
Never means forever, well, I dont think a single moment of cry dont exist during the process of togetherness....
why not looking for new partner? its hard to forget your past but you better looking for new one to heal the broken heart, you can't regret it every minutes
the best thing to get rid of someone is to find another man.......that works for me!!
Southbound
05-07-11, 19:56
the best thing to get rid of someone is to find another man.......that works for me!!
I am Free for the weekend.:wave:
Sky Garden
05-07-11, 20:23
the best thing to get rid of someone is to find another man.......that works for me!!
Unless of course you are a man in the first place............
Actually that might work just fine for men also
coucou.cherie
05-07-11, 20:42
Actually that might work just fine for men also
you mean, for also finding another man? uhm...
Sky Garden
05-07-11, 20:54
yup I know a couple of guys who got out of a heterosexual relationship and then discovered/realised/decided they were gay.
i would like eat much ice cream try to frozen my heart lol ^^
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vKc1ngYo5Q0
listen to this song, cried, then get over it.
Best way to get over 1 man is in another mans arms. youll not fall in love but the comfort, reassurance and affection will elp.. ALOT.
hello i'm newbie here..
I wanna share something about my love life. Few days ago, my bf said that, it would be better if we finished our relationship right now. It was hurt. till today, i still find my self crying at night. I try to do a lot activities, but still i can't forget him. do you have any ideas?what should i do? I'm getting stressful with this.
do you have the same experience?
share your idea here..
thanks
My guess is that was your first relationship? It's always hard for the first break up. I don't think you need to do something urgent or big to heal your pain. Your feeling will just heal by itself. Life moves on and you should too. You will get better when you find someone else cuter and nicer :-)
hello i'm newbie here..
I wanna share something about my love life. Few days ago, my bf said that, it would be better if we finished our relationship right now. It was hurt. till today, i still find my self crying at night. I try to do a lot activities, but still i can't forget him. do you have any ideas?what should i do? I'm getting stressful with this.
do you have the same experience?
share your idea here..
thanks
start with say" I will be fine without bf", this thing couldn't hold my feet and life....and move on... get more know new peoples and hangout with friends...
how to heal ourself from broken heart?
I think the only choice is to cut your heart out.
Waktu menyembuhkan segalanya.
Time Heals All Wounds, Eh??
Time doesn't Heal Anything. It simply makes things easier to live with.
tonymontana
14-11-11, 16:29
Time wounds all heels.
hello i'm newbie here..
I wanna share something about my love life. Few days ago, my bf said that, it would be better if we finished our relationship right now. It was hurt. till today, i still find my self crying at night. I try to do a lot activities, but still i can't forget him. do you have any ideas?what should i do? I'm getting stressful with this.
do you have the same experience?
share your idea here..
thanks
Do not see the photos of him.
Don't try to call or text him.
Stay focus.
esjete2000
18-12-11, 10:26
hello i'm newbie here..
I wanna share something about my love life. Few days ago, my bf said that, it would be better if we finished our relationship right now. It was hurt. till today, i still find my self crying at night. I try to do a lot activities, but still i can't forget him. do you have any ideas?what should i do? I'm getting stressful with this.
do you have the same experience?
share your idea here..
thanks
There're many ideas have been posted,... have been cured ?,...
esjete2000
18-12-11, 10:30
Time Heals All Wounds, Eh??
Time doesn't Heal Anything. It simply makes things easier to live with.
Or,...
Worst if,...
worst? really ? Try to have sex with someone else...
esjete2000
18-12-11, 19:56
worst? really ? Try to have sex with someone else...
No, thanks,...
Prefer stick with mine,...
Well, because your bf who the one finished your relationship, may be this way will help you; try make a list about bad moments with him; or try to remember something that You don't like about him; or something when he made you angry; and TELL YOURSELF that he doesn't deserve to be with you and TELL YOURSELF " that I will meet a better man". Then, you treat yourself with whatever you like that you could not do when you were with him! Be a single woman is not bad! Go shopping, hang out, drink with your friends and laugh! Be happy, sweetheart!
waarmstrong
18-12-11, 20:32
Eat ice cream with hot fudge on top.
Time wounds all heels.
Yes u are true Tony, but need long time to heal, at least 5 years.
No, thanks,...
Prefer stick with mine,...
Some people just love the pain
monkey_queen
04-01-12, 08:42
get married
dont waste your time and tears for someone who dont want you - throw him away !!!, you deserve to get the best thing in your life and yes that's include men , be brave sista !! :redface:
monkey_queen
04-01-12, 09:17
dont waste your time and tears for someone who dont want you - throw him away !!!, you deserve to get the best thing in your life and yes that's include men , be brave sista !! :redface: easy to say...hahay http://www.laymark.com/l/m/m107.gif (http://www.laymark.com)
if he dare to break your heart then he doesn't deserve you at all. get new BF lah.. so simple :) everything happen for a reason. think in positive way at least you know he doesn't really love you. the situation will be difficult if you r married already with the wrong guy.
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