View Full Version : How to handle this kind of person/member?
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 14:50
Last week I received PM from one of the member asking about party, the message was
" Hi any party?..my name is m..c. , I work in xxxxx and I come from xx. I am looking for apartment near my work place."
and then I replied : Hi xxxx, How long you've been here, blah blah..and I told that I dont know about the housing in his area (ckrg) and I also told him that we dont have confirm date for gathering yet , but my friends (girls) and I planning to go out on Friday night for dinner in HRC and then continue to club somewhere.. ( I never invited him to come)..but I did gave him my bb pin...incase he also out and wants to join us ( not me personally).
on Saturday morning, this time my husband and I were watching our son playing soccer in school, suddently I got BBM saying :
Want to meet in pasar festival?
I said : Why and whats is there? Forum gathering or special event?
he said : Pasar festival is near taman rasuna, i live near by
I said : I know where pasar festival is, my question is what on, whos coming?
he said : how about Menara Epicentrum? where do you live?
I said : I live in cibubur
He said : far away, I live in Citra inn/aston, near ambasador, want to come to have coffee?
I said : I am watching soccer and then I am going to get new laptop in Mega Bazzar Compute JCC and I dont meet a guy face to face , 1 on 1 to have coffee. Maybe I'll see /meet you in gathering someday.
He said : OK maybe next time.
I started getting fed up with this guy and ignored the rest of the message, I just closed my chat and put my BB in my bag.
Today, Sunday at lunch, he BBM me again
He said: Meet me in Mal Ambasador?
I said : Why you want to meet me?
He said : Why do you want to meet me, probably the same.
I said : I never wanted to meet you in private, You asked me if there is any party, I said you can join us if you like ( not join me/my self in private)..I think you misunderstood!!
I met many forum members but never met 1 on 1 on date in private place. We are all friends, nothing more, myabe some of the single member are looking for date, but I am not one of them, I never expecting more than friendship. Maybe you can ask members whoever met me before.
You wouldn't believe what he said after this
" Ok Lets meet then"!
Geewees ..is he dumb ARS3 or just pure numb nut...
Anyone know how to handle this kind of moron? he seem very desperate.
Anyone want him? lol
Just tell him you're married and have a kid.
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 15:20
I told him but..he still don't get it....:mad: ..he seem never read any posts. He just saw avatar picture and go for it...:laser:
Just ignore him, he will stop eventually....most likely he'd get tired/bored of waiting for your response and find another target.
Did he harass you through the forum at anytime?
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 16:16
No..he only sent me 2 messages. 2 one was asking about party and housing, and 2nd was about him being here for 6 months.
He doesn't take " NO, Sorry I cant" for answer...his pm is just copy of his post..always with phone number or email address in bottom of his post.
Just ignore it, I will say ....
You will find this type of people anywhere in the world .....
Another way is hollywood way. I remember watching this movie one, it is called "groupies" (the one who always hang around a star celebrities). Also some tricks available from soup opera like, "gossip girls, etc"
Give them the address or phone number of a person who want to engange with expats ... or your grandma address/phone .
I am sure once they realise that they have been fooled, they will stop ......
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 16:44
I've replied your PM Oli.
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 16:47
Adindas..yeah I should play trick..if he bother me again.
I've PMed you.
Come on Atlantis...she already said "Stop!" and "No means No"
Cannot the French comprehend or is it because they are obsessed with 'Amour'
Please do not persist with this PMing or you may be infracted!:tsk:
Oh! I re-read stt_cibuburs post...it isn't you...you're trying to help....sorry.:becky:
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 16:56
hahahaha good one Davita..
Come on Atlantis...she already said "Stop!" and "No means No"
Cannot the French comprehend or is it because they are obsessed with 'Amour'
Please do not persist with this PMing or you may be infracted!:tsk:
Oh! I re-read stt_cibuburs post...it isn't you...you're trying to help....sorry.:becky:
Hehehe :lol:
Block him? I mean, no offense there stt but if someone bothers you, ignore them, block them, and that's it. Not rocket science and doesn't require the opinion of a forum full of people :)
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 18:15
I did MadCat....I've block him, remove him from my contact ( but he may be come back with new name)
He's probrably just a bit lonely..
BTW.. are there really such things as ''Forum gatherings or special events?'' that you mention in your original post.
Am i missing something..??
I did MadCat....I've block him, remove him from my contact ( but he may be come back with new name)
That's why you don't hand out your BBM pin to every random stranger :) A few people have my phone number, and even less are whitelisted in my phone so it actually rings when they call or send a message. If you want privacy and you don't want to be bothered, that's something that unfortunately these days you have to work on to obtain it.
inipunyahanee
13-03-11, 19:04
go see him with your 5 or 10 friends in a restaurant and then leave him with the bills! :becky:
The last one I got suggesting a meet was answered "I'll be happy to. Perhaps when I'm out shopping with my wife and baby daughter."
She never bo9thered again.
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 19:39
He's probrably just a bit lonely..
BTW.. are there really such things as ''Forum gatherings or special events?'' that you mention in your original post.
Am i missing something..??
We do have gathering ( we had 4x gathering so far), I missed 1 cause I was overseas..but this year we haven't not confirm the date and place yet..anyone have any suggestion?
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 19:43
The last one I got suggesting a meet was answered "I'll be happy to. Perhaps when I'm out shopping with my wife and baby daughter."
She never bo9thered again.
I had similar experience few years ago..someone so obsessed with me and keep calling like 10x in 1 hour, day and night, he stopped after I gave the phone to my husband and I'll let hubby handle it.
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 19:47
go see him with your 5 or 10 friends in a restaurant and then leave him with the bills! :becky:
Good idea..take him to BATS or Immigrant, Open bottle of Champagne and just disappeared in the crowd... but the problem will be, the staff knows us and if he didn't pay, they will get to us... hmm bad idea lol.
stt_cibubur
13-03-11, 21:22
Kratos..If it was you, I don't think you bother with messages, would you? You probably come straight at me...LOL
Saturday morning, this time my husband and I were watching our son playing soccer in school, suddently I got BBM saying :
Today, Sunday at lunch, he BBM me again
How did it get as far as him having your BBM Pin??
Hombre de Maiz
13-03-11, 22:33
You don't learn, do you?
How did it get as far as him having your BBM Pin??
if you read her OP, she gave it to him (smacks forehead and says "duh")
and then she wonders why she is being stalked
I would not like my wife giving out her pin to a stranger for just this reason . As far as cross cultural misunderstanding . A swift kick in the nuts is language all us men can understand . Try that approach if all else fails
to be honest, i think you were foolish to hand out your personal info, bbm etc
i appreciate you are just a sweet friendly person
but you shouldnt really be handing out such info
did you tell him you are very happily married with kid etc?
this guy is a total stranger, from a forum, i mean would you give someone in a bar your number and bbm and address just off hand like that? honestly?
just delete his bbm, you can block future invitations - its unlikely he will buy a new bb just to bbm you, if he does just delete that one too
and stop replying to his emails
however innocent his emails might seem, you have to be careful
its different if you have met him once or twice (with friends)
you have no idea what are his motives
and also, what would your husband think (honestly) if he knows you are handing out your bbm to random men and then they bbm you asking to meet
im sure he trusts you, thats not my point, but didnt we just have a thread where a woman picked up her husbands phone and read messages about meeting up
certainly if i picked up my wifes phone and saw she had bbm from a guy asking to meet her for dinner or drinks etc i would not be happy
just as im sure if some hot chick started bbm'ing your hubby asking to meet him for "coffee" or going out, you would be jealous or upset
and please dont say "oh no i wouldnt, i trust him etc etc" because it is never really like that
i hope you can just delete me oooops i mean that guy, and he stops harrassing you
put it down as a lesson learnt
im honestly surprised at you for handing out your pin etc so easily - i know you are a very friendly kind sweet person, but sadly the world we live in today is not like that
theres many nutters out there, and on this forum too (inc me!!) so be careful - all you girls - be careful when you hand out your contact info and dont meet strangers alone at night time (seriously)
remember a lot of people also believe that the hot pic on your profile is really you, and get over excited - facebook is the same - change your picture to an ugly old man and see how many requests you get!
put a hot chick as your pic and you get 100 a day! even if you put "happily married with 5 kids"
anyway sttcibu we know that is you, and you are a hot chick, but please dont be a silly ibu lagi!!
thankyouuuuuuuuuuuu
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 08:49
to be honest, i think you were foolish to hand out your personal info, bbm etc
i appreciate you are just a sweet friendly person
but you shouldnt really be handing out such info
did you tell him you are very happily married with kid etc?
this guy is a total stranger, from a forum, i mean would you give someone in a bar your number and bbm and address just off hand like that? honestly?
just delete his bbm, you can block future invitations - its unlikely he will buy a new bb just to bbm you, if he does just delete that one too
and stop replying to his emails
however innocent his emails might seem, you have to be careful
its different if you have met him once or twice (with friends)
you have no idea what are his motives
and also, what would your husband think (honestly) if he knows you are handing out your bbm to random men and then they bbm you asking to meet
im sure he trusts you, thats not my point, but didnt we just have a thread where a woman picked up her husbands phone and read messages about meeting up
certainly if i picked up my wifes phone and saw she had bbm from a guy asking to meet her for dinner or drinks etc i would not be happy
just as im sure if some hot chick started bbm'ing your hubby asking to meet him for "coffee" or going out, you would be jealous or upset
and please dont say "oh no i wouldnt, i trust him etc etc" because it is never really like that
i hope you can just delete me oooops i mean that guy, and he stops harrassing you
put it down as a lesson learnt
im honestly surprised at you for handing out your pin etc so easily - i know you are a very friendly kind sweet person, but sadly the world we live in today is not like that
theres many nutters out there, and on this forum too (inc me!!) so be careful - all you girls - be careful when you hand out your contact info and dont meet strangers alone at night time (seriously)
remember a lot of people also believe that the hot pic on your profile is really you, and get over excited - facebook is the same - change your picture to an ugly old man and see how many requests you get!
put a hot chick as your pic and you get 100 a day! even if you put "happily married with 5 kids"
anyway sttcibu we know that is you, and you are a hot chick, but please dont be a silly ibu lagi!!
thankyouuuuuuuuuuuu
I gave my bbm pin to you, didn't I ( I've shouldn't done it ..ooopss my bad..).. and guess what..in the end I don't have to remove you from my contact..you left because I didn't reply your message..( I was in Thailand ..duh...) :confused2:
firstly, when you reply with quote, you dont necessarily need to post ALL of my post! saves space! (go green!) lol
yes you did give me your bbm, but that was after you knew me and we chatted a lot on pm etc emails etc and you have met me in the flesh (clothed!) as well
and whilst i do not condone your excellent sense of taste in adding me on your bbm, i would like to think that its because im not some weirdo asking to meet up with you for drinks, dinners etc etc
but you are a grown woman of 29 1/2 so you have your own judgement of people
i was just saying perhaps in future get to know forum strangers a little better first before handing out your pin etc
no offence meant, just sticking my nose in, as you asked us on here what you should do - and we / i suggested not to have let it get to that point in the first place?
actually i still have you on bbm, i only deleted that group chat one because i kept getting pings and things
if you are not on it now (i will check) then its an oversight, sometimes contacts seem to disappear and reappear when upgrading software etc
dont feel bad - i will readd you again if you are "missing" on it
and yes i know you were in thailand, what message did i send you that you didnt reply to??
I think in all fairness in is unfair to blame the forum for msgs that are not received from it. Give your personal details to whom you wish but don't blame the forum for any repercussions of such, surely?
This is becoming very confusing... I think you guys need to take this on in PM.
Married women exchanging BBM pin number with a guy and complaining they are being stalked?? Apa kata dunia??
...Married women exchanging BBM pin number with a guy and complaining they are being stalked?? Apa kata dunia??
My thoughts entirely.
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 09:27
I think I am too kind and think that everybody in this forum have kindness like me.., 99% peoples I dealt with in workwise and daily life, they all have trust in me, and I trust them and the 1% don't trust me because i dont trust them..they are hopeless in anyway, hopeless in communication, finance, 2 faces peoples ..but in this forum I found there are many 2 faces peoples/2 headed snakes, hypocrites, snobby.... I am aware of that!!
I got 10 BBM pin from this forum members and turn out 1of them is stalker, 1 of them is temperamental, 1 of them is silent of the lamb/ignorant, 1 of them is " Invited me to party but i had to pay my own drinks"" errrhmmm..no problem I can afford it but its the principal I concern. 1 of them in unreliable ( example : I'll bbm you on Thurs for this weekend plan, 2 weeks later still no bbm, no pm, no info - but I always have back up plan..good job)....
I didn't expected this guy to be stalkers..I was wrong! I normally gave my BB pin after I've met them..but this time it slipped... well..I am just human.
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 09:33
This is becoming very confusing... I think you guys need to take this on in PM.
Married women exchanging BBM pin number with a guy and complaining they are being stalked?? Apa kata dunia??
I doubt it that you don't have Phonebook, bbm contact list of girls thats isn't your family...not on this earth!
my purpose of the exchange number/bbm pin was to update on the party/gathering...but when the dick start talking and have urge..it become.. online date..this is what I want to avoid. but men always flirt..no matter how many wives or girlfriends they have...hormon talking is hazzard!
I think I am too kind and think that everybody in this forum have kindness like me
I think perhaps you are stt_cibubur
Hombre de Maiz
14-03-11, 09:38
I think I am too kind and think that everybody in this forum have kindness like me..,....
I didn't expected this guy to be stalkers..I was wrong! I normally gave my BB pin after I've met them..but this time it slipped... well..I am just human.
Kind is perhaps too kind a word. You didn't expect the guy to be a stalker? That's what you claimed last time...
I doubt it that you don't have Phonebook, bbm contact list of girls thats isn't your family...not on this earth!
Yes, you are correct. As a matter of fact, my 8GB media card is nearly full from all the female contacts that I have. But can you blame me?? I am "single to mingle".
I think it is best to just have this post deleted and save face. Yes, men flirt, and "some" women buy it, married women too!
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 09:47
I think in all fairness in is unfair to blame the forum for msgs that are not received from it. Give your personal details to whom you wish but don't blame the forum for any repercussions of such, surely?
I dont blame the forum..I blame myself..thats why I asked opinion how to handle this jackass.
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 09:50
Kind is perhaps too kind a word. You didn't expect the guy to be a stalker? That's what you claimed last time...
yes Mauricio..we dont know what will happen..until its happend..I cant predict the future, I cant see that this person will be harrast me later.
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 09:53
Yes, you are correct. As a matter of fact, my 8GB media card is nearly full from all the female contacts that I have. But can you blame me?? I am "single to mingle".
I think it is best to just have this post deleted and save face. Yes, men flirt, and "some" women buy it, married women too!
I thought I read in the other post that you have a wife and kid...maybe I was wrong again..damn..I need a holiday.
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 10:01
@Leyton..re: post 37..yes thanks and its my weakness.. I only able to hurt Mosquito and ants because they bit me..but I couldn't never hurt a persons feeling or physically...I wont be able to sleep at night if i do.
I thought I read in the other post that you have a wife and kid...maybe I was wrong again..damn..I need a holiday.
Are you stalking me?? J/K LOL
I thought I read in the other post that you have a wife and kid...maybe I was wrong again.
Tjamail has a kid and no wife at the moment.
Stt, its not a nice thing you have to deal with now. But I guess its not a difficult question too. Just ignore him in your bb list, and put him also in ignore feature on this forum. I hope he will be reading your thread here and knows that he is not welcome to bother you again. Some people, man or woman could be so stubborn and cant receive a No answer. But they will be tired of trying in some point.
Giving up our number or bb pin is still a special thing for me to do to avoid such thing. Only a few people on this forum that know it. Those who I trust very well. And I want it to keep it that way. I hope you wont be slip again. Stay safe. :)
@Leyton..re: post 37..yes thanks and its my weakness.. I only able to hurt Mosquito and ants because they bit me..but I couldn't never hurt a persons feeling or physically...I wont be able to sleep at night if i do.
It's Ok stt_cibibur but please don't assume eveyone is the same as you are.
Snowy city
14-03-11, 10:11
Hmm. scary... I think You are just too nice STT... too friendly... I often do the same thing. I think you need to be more careful and selective. I'll do the same thing.
By the way now I know Atlantis's name is Oli and Hombre's is Mauricio...Tjamail, Ismail?
By the way now I know Atlantis's name is Oli and Hombre's is Mauricio...Tjamail, Ismail?
There goes the forum.... You have blow our cover and identity!
Yes, Ismail.. Mohammad Ismail Nurdin Gozali "jagoan betawi"...
Atlantis - Oli... Ganti Oli
Hombre - Mauricio... Actually is a stage name used during his days working as a male stripper during college for extra cash. I believe he danced best to Latin music?
Hombre de Maiz
14-03-11, 10:17
Maybe you can give the old staker the new stalker's number, and ask him to call the new guy by impersonating your husband. You know, the same ploy that your pal, the old stalker, tried to do with me...In both instances, it doesn't take clairvoyance, an oracle or a crystal ball to discern the likely consequences of your actions, but I suppose it does take a modicum of grey matter...
Hope the new stalker is loaded, cause maintenance fees could be pretty high!
Snowy city
14-03-11, 10:29
There goes the forum.... You have blow our cover and identity!
Yes, Ismail.. Mohammad Ismail Nurdin Gozali "jagoan betawi"...
Atlantis - Oli... Ganti Oli
Hombre - Mauricio... Actually is a stage name used during his days working as a male stripper during college for extra cash. I believe he danced best to Latin music?
He he... Aduh... I keep laughing today. Ketawa terus...
Yes, Ismail.. Mohammad Ismail Nurdin Gozali "jagoan betawi"...
:pound: Nice one ! I'm going to start calling you Ismail ..
He he... Aduh... I keep laughing today. Ketawa terus...
Mie 2...
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 11:31
Tjamail has a kid and no wife at the moment.
Stt, its not a nice thing you have to deal with now. But I guess its not a difficult question too. Just ignore him in your bb list, and put him also in ignore feature on this forum. I hope he will be reading your thread here and knows that he is not welcome to bother you again. Some people, man or woman could be so stubborn and cant receive a No answer. But they will be tired of trying in some point.
Giving up our number or bb pin is still a special thing for me to do to avoid such thing. Only a few people on this forum that know it. Those who I trust very well. And I want it to keep it that way. I hope you wont be slip again. Stay safe. :)
Thanks ALia..I'll keep yours ..and other nice peoples from this forum..I'll kick the rest :biggrin:
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 11:34
Are you stalking me?? J/K LOL
I am following your posts LOL
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 11:43
Hmm. scary... I think You are just too nice STT... too friendly... I often do the same thing. I think you need to be more careful and selective. I'll do the same thing.
By the way now I know Atlantis's name is Oli and Hombre's is Mauricio...Tjamail, Ismail?
So, I presume you haven't received a French letter from Atlantis then..lol.
I got 10 BBM pin from this forum members and turn out 1of them is stalker, 1 of them is temperamental, 1 of them is silent of the lamb/ignorant, 1 of them is " Invited me to party but i had to pay my own drinks"" errrhmmm..no problem I can afford it but its the principal I concern. 1 of them in unreliable ( example : I'll bbm you on Thurs for this weekend plan, 2 weeks later still no bbm, no pm, no info - but I always have back up plan..good job).....
which one am i?!?! lol
Whole thing sounds to me like a case of ADD.
Whole thing sounds to me like a case of ADD.
it was ADD that got her into this mess
now she needs to DELETE
hahahahaha
Maybe you can try this answer, next time he contact you :
- Sorry, but where we met before? And when was that?
Play like you don't really remember him, like he is just a far blury memory in you mind and already full life.
If he contact you again, answer exactly the same.
It's 100% guarantee he will go chase somewhere else (except if he got a serious mental disorder).
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 15:57
which one am i?!?! lol
always sulking ..LOL
Just ignore the guy, he will get the message. Some people take a long time to get the message. If he keeps it up, we'll get a possie together and run him out of town:P:) hehehe:)
Ray:)
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 17:39
I'll send him few of my gay friends to entertainment him..if he start again.
It's not as much stt giving out BBM pin to people (after all guys, I want to bet you have given out your phone number to semi-strangers before as well), it's just a matter of realising that with that comes the unfortunate business that some people just don't know how to socialise with someone from the opposite sex - so, if you give people your BBM/hp#/whatever, if they misbehave, block 'em and forget 'em. My point earlier was that it doesn't require a big thread on the forum since it should be common sense :)
Hombre de Maiz
14-03-11, 17:57
...it should be common sense :)
You would think that is the case. Apparently not. Twice now.
You would think that is the case. Apparently not. Twice now.
Also no need to jump on stt really, one can still assume that people are nice and will treat hp #'s and bbm's with a little bit of common sense as well - so it's sometimes lacking on both ends, doesn't mean anyone needs to be pointed at as being "guilty".
Also: first time is an accident, second time a coincidence, third time you're a retard - so there's still some wiggleroom there.
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 18:23
I did remove him, but he could come back and being pushy again through PM in this forum..
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 19:16
I am friendly person, I don't mind listening other peoples complaint, I'll help if I can, talk dirty, naughty or whatever..as long as men still have respect...I do understand some people here are very lonely, desperate and do anything to get/meet a girl.. but when the girl says No..a smart men should just accept the rejection..not try again and again...but I know that some men couldn't handle it when his wishes is rejected. My phone number is safe from horny man unless some, I got several HP number from members here and they are all good peoples..no hassle, never bothering me..and they were semi stranger from this forum . I only got it because of the meeting. ..
I can be a clubbing friend, a sister, auntie or whatever you want, jump on me, accuse me, complaint about me, hate me for knowing your truth...or anything..but just don't harras me!!
So, I learned the lesson..don't give any number/bbm pin/email/messenger to anyone from this Forum ( except the nice one that already in my contact, I will keep it).
Thanks for imput guys.
So, I learned the lesson..don't give any number/bbm pin/email/messenger to anyone from this Forum ( except the nice one that already in my contact, I will keep it).
Thanks for imput guys.
So that means that you will never add anyone else ever again and only socialize with the ones that are in your contact list?
So if you are not giving out your BBM PIN, can we have your ATM PIN instead??
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 20:04
So that means that you will never add anyone else ever again and only socialize with the ones that are in your contact list?
So if you are not giving out your BBM PIN, can we have your ATM PIN instead??
Its empty tj..spent it all already..2 days ago, I bought new laptop from you..you forget?? oopss sorry it was shop keeper name Ismail..LOL "Peace tj"
I will be choosy from now on..specially from this forum... seem like I trusted peoples from FB more..at least when they post on my wall, my hubby, friends and family can read it all.
And I thought I was nice:P lol
Ray:)
stt_cibubur
14-03-11, 20:37
You are nice Ray.. but the suggestion from members are
1. Married women shouldn't exchange bb pin or hp.
2. I shouldn't gave out my contact detail to strangers ( the guy is from this forum), so..unless we met, you are all strangers, right?? ;-)
You are nice Ray.. but the suggestion from members are
1. Married women shouldn't exchange bb pin or hp.
2. I shouldn't gave out my contact detail to strangers ( the guy is from this forum), so..unless we met, you are all strangers, right?? ;-)
None of thing you posted here, unless for business purposes or family matters, should be categorized as serious, Dear....
Afterall,
we dont live in a lil cute place called "Heaven" yet, aight ?
waarmstrong
14-03-11, 22:58
You are nice Ray.. but the suggestion from members are
1. Married women shouldn't exchange bb pin or hp.
2. I shouldn't gave out my contact detail to strangers ( the guy is from this forum), so..unless we met, you are all strangers, right?? ;-)
Speaking of questionable choices, the "old bag" avatar, even a designer one, is decidedly unrepresentative. Maybe its already been said, but I would prefer one of the earlier pictures, especially since you have so many striking options to choose from.
You are nice Ray.. but the suggestion from members are
1. Married women shouldn't exchange bb pin or hp.
2. I shouldn't gave out my contact detail to strangers ( the guy is from this forum), so..unless we met, you are all strangers, right?? ;-)
I agree totally, no one should give out details to anyone and if women are going to meet up, be aware of the dangers that may be involved. Personally, I have no problem meeting anyone from this forum for a social drink or whatever but if it was a woman I was meeting I would have bring along my wife...I know from experience what can happen when women see me in person...they seem to loose all inhabitions and just throw themselves at me:P Thats something I've had to live with for many years now:):P I'm sure you guys know what its like, a terrible burden to go through life with:) So, guys, I'll be in Jakarta for 2 weeks in June and open to a beer or 2. Ladies, sure I'll meet you for coffee or a beer and you can meet my better half too:P:)
Ray:)
I'm gonna throw in 2 other cents; if you make decisions based on what the membership of an internet forum thinks you should do, then you might as well not live your own life and let us do it for you. Do what you think is right, do what you want to do, don't let anyone tell you how to live your life.
always sulking ..LOL
sKulking too ;-)
I did remove him, but he could come back and being pushy again through PM in this forum..
no, cos you can block and delete and report him after the first one
and you dont need to open it when you know its from him?
I am friendly person, , I'll help if I can, talk dirty, naughty or whatever..
wow
you better not let fred hear that, or he will go out and buy one of those blueberry phone thingys so he can talk naughty with a lass
but on a different note - is that the same way of thinking as other married women here? that its ok to talk dirty, naughty, flirt etc with guys on bbm etc even if they are married?
but its not the same if the husband is talking naughty on bbm to a girl?
im not saying you personally sulis, im just saying this is a very grey area with no real lines to cross as to what is acceptable or not
goes back to all these married girls i see in bats, df, rs etc all posing in their miniskirts, surrounded by brondong, flirting away etc while the old jelek bule atm oops husband is at home asleep
no wonder jealousy is one of the seven sins!
Stt, this guy really is a jerk , now we have to look at a Hand bag because of him ? I'm going to miss that smile, LOL I don't own a bb but can't you just change the number or erase him out or something.
stt_cibubur
15-03-11, 09:00
wow
you better not let fred hear that, or he will go out and buy one of those blueberry phone thingys so he can talk naughty with a lass
but on a different note - is that the same way of thinking as other married women here? that its ok to talk dirty, naughty, flirt etc with guys on bbm etc even if they are married?
but its not the same if the husband is talking naughty on bbm to a girl?
im not saying you personally sulis, im just saying this is a very grey area with no real lines to cross as to what is acceptable or not
goes back to all these married girls i see in bats, df, rs etc all posing in their miniskirts, surrounded by brondong, flirting away etc while the old jelek bule atm oops husband is at home asleep
no wonder jealousy is one of the seven sins!
You right Stephen,...but lucky me my husband only go out with me and he is not one of THE old jelek bule, only 4 yrs older than me)...I admit it, peoples flirt or just talking naughty but there is a limit and we have to know WHERE TO STOP, I have faith you know....
Men thinks that because the girls is flirting, automatically assume that she is available to go home with him, to have sex with him (who the heck think he is)....big mistake!!
If you see me and my friends sorrounded by brondong, they are not just any brondong..they are my friends boyfriend.
Well Ste..you've seen me, met me..did you see any brondong near us that day in BATS?? oh I forget you were busy with your VIP, how about in RS when I was with Maria, Redsnper + mrs , and 5 girls,... if i remember you were in the swing mood..sulking in the corner with a mr absolute...I flirt with waiters, the brondong one..to put more alc in the drinks and guess what, It worked..I succeed. LOL
stt_cibubur
15-03-11, 09:10
Stt, this guy really is a jerk , now we have to look at a Hand bag because of him ? I'm going to miss that smile, LOL I don't own a bb but can't you just change the number or erase him out or something.
Hi R..yes he is..thats not all his messages....I just make it shorter...
Hows the project going? still plan to re-locate ...hey this is one of my bag collection you know, my favorite brand....hahahaha
How about my skype photo..I thought I smile in there...lol..
now we have to look at a Hand bag because of him ?
LOL.. Shopping and spending money is a good way to relieve stress and frustration...
stt_cibubur
15-03-11, 09:21
I'm gonna throw in 2 other cents; if you make decisions based on what the membership of an internet forum thinks you should do, then you might as well not live your own life and let us do it for you. Do what you think is right, do what you want to do, don't let anyone tell you how to live your life.
Actually I learned a lot from the comment on this thread...slowly come out the real personality or real attitude of the members (appeared that way)...and now I know who I can trust and whos not. Thanks for the advice.Appreciated.
Actually I learned a lot from the comment on this thread...slowly come out the real personality or real attitude of the members (appeared that way)...and now I know who I can trust and whos not. Thanks for the advice.Appreciated.
Yes, I too will admit. I have seen some true colors shine in this post and they are not very bright. :yo:
hahahaha good one Davita..
Well stt...seems like you thought I was amusing and no threat...please, therefore, can you advise all your forum friends accordingly and hope they find that humor can be infectious.
:laugh:
Stt, this guy really is a jerk , now we have to look at a Hand bag because of him ? I'm going to miss that smile, LOL I don't own a bb but can't you just change the number or erase him out or something.
Very sad that this idiot makes you take your photo down but on the other hand my wife loves L.V. bags:) STT, ignore him and be yourself:)
Ray:)
stt_cibubur
15-03-11, 13:45
Very sad that this idiot makes you take your photo down but on the other hand my wife loves L.V. bags:) STT, ignore him and be yourself:)
Ray:)
Aha..another LV lovers... expensive taste huh!:thumb:
That't not expensive taste... it called "ikut2an"... An expensive bag is the Hermis "Birkin". That's expensive taste.
Amazing what brand names and expensive jewelery will make women do.... Kind of like making the heart throb, but in a another place.
you've seen me, met me..did you see any brondong near us that day in BATS?? oh I forget you were busy with your VIP, how about in RS when I was with Maria, Redsnper + mrs , and 5 girls,... if i remember you were in the swing mood..sulking in the corner with a mr absolute...I flirt with waiters, the brondong one..to put more alc in the drinks and guess what, It worked..I succeed. LOL
i like my little quiet corner - good position to check out the competition
ironically i get more "attention" by being quiet in my corner than i do if i was dancing like a drunk bule on the bar
plus i love watching the reaction of bule - the first time they ever see an asian girl or so it seems, they go in the bar and their jaws drop, tongues fall out and they stare and ogle at anything with brea5ts and a pulse
funny how the clubs in uk u dont see 40+ year olds walking around as if they are gods gift
and stt - i didnt look to see who you were with in bats, i said hi to u and had a chat, and that night in rs u were with the girls and mr redsnpr so i didnt like to disturb your fun :-D
all the waiters in rs are brondong, none of them older than you, and they all got fired for giving away free drinks hahahaha joking
stt_cibubur
15-03-11, 14:28
That't not expensive taste... it called "ikut2an"... An expensive bag is the Hermis "Birkin". That's expensive taste.
Amazing what brand names and expensive jewelery will make women do.... Kind of like making the heart throb, but in a another place.
Wow..Really.. If LV is low taste, You must be loaded then..good for you, how many Birkin you have? how many Aston Martin or Lamborghini in your garage?
I choose what affordable for my pocket..LV, GUCCI, Chanel, Prada are only brand I can effort....$ 10.000 -20.000 for 1 Hermes bag is away too much.
BTW..you are not Gayus , are you??
Never said it was "low taste", just an every day kinda bag like Kijang Innova is to the rich for running around town.
Loaded? Like a loaded weapon you mean? Must I explain and brag my wealth in the forum?? I am affraid you may be tempted to leave what you have and stalk me for more! Enough is never enough, right?
Let's keep the forum for what it is, an information tool, and not to brag about "rags to riches" and what one's wealth is.
Gayus.... I got a couple of friends with that name. You have got me lost now ;)
actually in europe gucci and lv etc isnt really so fancy, most people can afford it and its not so expensive there
$300 for shoes and bags etc in gucci milan, even london, plus tax back at airport
its only because of the tax here that makes everything so expensive that everyone makes a big deal about owning a real gucci bag or a mercedes etc
yes birkin is expensive but also because of limited numbers
i have 1 aston martin, since sold, and 1 audi r8, also recently sold
im not gayus, gayus friendlyus
hahahaa
btw i know you werent aiming it at me
ok, where were we?!?
That's what I am talking about!
We were at those branded fancy things I cant afford or even dreaming of having them in my closet or garage.
Oopps.., no I guess we were not in there.
stt_cibubur
15-03-11, 15:00
That's what I am talking about!
Thats call "ikut2an"
Thats call "ikut2an"
Your catching on quick. Forum seems to be helping your IQ.
As I said, it is a good learning tool, the forum.
We gotcha covered and understand ;)
Ok, where were we? Oh crap, ikut2an again! :doh:
Let me try,
We were at the information or advice seeking on how to deal with a stubborn person who was pming and bbming stt for a party and cant receive a No or polite answer.
Betul ..?
Let me try,
We were at the information or advice seeking on how to deal with a stubborn person who was pming and bbming stt for a party and cant receive a No or polite answer.
Betul ..?
Yep...betuls neng! I think the ADD factor hit again and topic jadi belok! Hate when that happens!
Ok, where were we at?
Dammit, I did it again! Ikut2an is really an issue here.
stt_cibubur
15-03-11, 16:00
Originally only got IQ result 130..sometime got 140..is it bad??
Now, after this forum? I have no idea..maybe down to monkey brain.:doh: :p
Originally only got IQ result 130..sometime got 140..is it bad??
Now, after this forum? I have no idea..maybe down to monkey brain.:doh: :p
Ragunan dunks!!? Nice IQ... Eat more veggies, and it will increase. Don't waste money on organic, it is a marketing ploy.
Hi R..yes he is..thats not all his messages....I just make it shorter...
Hows the project going? still plan to re-locate ...hey this is one of my bag collection you know, my favorite brand....hahahaha
How about my skype photo..I thought I smile in there...lol..
Yes, the skype is more than acceptable , And the hand bag thing is legendary LOL, Rock on Girl , Yes still planning on relocating and the project is coming along just fine, Thanks for asking
You are nice Ray.. but the suggestion from members are
1. Married women shouldn't exchange bb pin or hp.
2. I shouldn't gave out my contact detail to strangers ( the guy is from this forum), so..unless we met, you are all strangers, right?? ;-)
I concurred. Like we exchange after we met. That should be by default now, stt.
actually in europe gucci and lv etc isnt really so fancy, most people can afford it and its not so expensive there
sorry for jumping in on this thread, but seriously, "most people can afford" Gucci in Europe????.....you're kidding, right!?? that's not true. That's why they're called "luxury brands". Majority of people in Europe cannot afford Gucci. Let's get real here...
sorry for jumping in on this thread, but seriously, "most people can afford" Gucci in Europe????.....you're kidding, right!?? that's not true. That's why they're called "luxury brands". Majority of people in Europe cannot afford Gucci. Let's get real here...
gucci is not particularly expensive in europe, despite what you might think, compared to the national average salary for uk / italy etc
a pair of mans shoes is less than $300
yes you might argue thats a lot of money for shoes, depending on your point of view - but any half decent high street brand is going to cost you $100-200 anyway for a well made pair
one of the "basic" gucci bags for women also can be had for around $300
thats only a couple of days salary for most people in uk, national average
yes you can split hairs about poverty etc
but my point was rather the pro-rata cost of gucci there and in indonesia due to the taxes
buying a gucci bag in indonesia makes people think you are rich because they cost so much in this country, same as other luxury brands
but in europe / italy / uk etc they are not a lot more than a decent high street brand
the same way that a bebe dress here is $300 - no one in uk would spend $300 on a dress from bebe or similar - its just an upmarket zara
for $300 in europe you can get a designer name
my point was the expense relative to europe due to taxes
a mid range bmw in jakarta costs more than an aston martin in the middle east
even that big toyota 4x4 (fortuner) is crazy money - they cost half that back in the real world
they are called "luxury" to make you think they are special - its called marketing
do you really think a c*rtier diamond is so much different or special than a "normal" one? all they do is engrave c*rtier on the diamond and make u pay twice as much for it because of the name
a t*ffany necklace is made from the same white gold as any other white gold necklace - you pay for the skyblue bag
tudor make all the workings for rolex watches - look in a watch shop at a tudor and a rolex
a toyota rush and a daihatsu terios are the same care
a polo shirt is a polo shirt until the factory in china sews on a polo horse for ralph lauren instead of a giordano logo
anyway back on topic, economics and marketing lesson over for today :-D
stt_cibubur
22-03-11, 17:58
Mr Park..$300 is cheapest ..click on this website, http://www.gucci.com/us/category/f/handbags
thanks
in europe its cheaper from milan - gucci in the duomo store (staffed by chinese students fluent in italian!)
plus the exchange rate is good
then you get the tax back
same as in uk, u get the 20% tax back in cash
so a $500 handbag is only $400
Mr Park..$300 is cheapest ..click on this website, http://www.gucci.com/us/category/f/handbags
Silly stt... that's the US website.
stt_cibubur
22-03-11, 19:20
Gucci prices are similar worldwide except Indonesia Pak tjamail..and this is UK website http://www.gucci.com/uk/category/f/handbags.. please let me know the different after you found a calculator..
oh I forget ..this is France Gucci website http://www.gucci.com/fr/category/f/handbags :noidea:
oh owkey...
That's some good 108 there...
waarmstrong
22-03-11, 23:17
My apologies to Stt, but paying $300 for a hand bag is not Gucci, its Goofy.
esjete2000
23-03-11, 01:24
,.... where'd this topic leads to ?,...
Um, I think nowhere, esjete 2000. :)
Personally I think most of the luxury brands are probably all made in Chinese factories anyway, and when you buy a luxury item you are paying for the "status" of the name, rather than the actual product.
,.... where'd this topic leads to ?,...
The topic went from a you lady complaining about giving out her personal contact information to a particular member in the forum and claims to have been stocked, and then explaining her past and how her current financial ability gives her the power to purchase Goofy, I mean Gucci bags and the like.
I think there is a more appropriate forum for such which is located here http://ragstorichesforum.com/forum.php
esjete2000
23-03-11, 09:31
Um, I think nowhere, esjete 2000. :)
Personally I think most of the luxury brands are probably all made in Chinese factories anyway, and when you buy a luxury item you are paying for the "status" of the name, rather than the actual product.
I got it fine Kelly888,...
,... look back to the origin topic, so he might be consumed too many "status labeled stuffs" that has driven him becoming over confidence.
esjete2000
23-03-11, 10:08
The topic went from a you lady complaining about giving out her personal contact information to a particular member in the forum and claims to have been stocked,.....
Yes I knew it, it started by accidentally pass over a BB PIN and I feel so sorry on what has happening after.
I think the forum guide lines has noticed about it.
Personally, I thank to her. Her thread has generated many responses from which I could learn beneficial thinkings regarding to the issue.
By the way,...
Practically, I would search and install an application that can reject and/ or blocking unwanted call/SMS.
stt_cibubur
23-03-11, 10:42
Atlantis/Mods..can you please close this thread!! I've got enough answers/opinions. Thanks a bunch!
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