Internet Dating

[BiPolarBear]

I'm kinda curious, is it common for people in Indo to meet others from internet dating site? And would they be ashamed to admit it (for fear that others might think that they are so desperate to meet someone)?

I met my boyfriend from internet dating site, and I'm proud to say that it is probably one of the best decision I've ever made. Though some (narrow-minded) people thought that internet dating sites are just for desperados and socially-retarded (or weirdos) who have zero chance in meeting someone in real world.

What's your opinion, people? :madgrin:

[Mas Fred]

Never tried it but I have had a mess around on yahoo and so on just for messing around.
I suppose it could work out for some but real life is better in my opinion.

[deMargie]

ummm ... it's depend on each person ...
A lot of people, not just from Indo, they thought havin date on internet is not for serious. If they were, like u mentioned before, "for weirdos or desperados " ..

But a bit disagree with that .
For me, having internet dating is wider network to know someone else better. knowing another culture and learn it, so i could introspection of myself. I always be serious if i made a decision for having a date by internet. Well, perhaps u should try to find another indo man who doesnt feel ashamed with your relationship.

Good Luck

[waarmstrong]

There have been a few "kidnappings" of teen girls in these parts, lately. The broadsheet stories invariably note that the kidnappee and the kidnapper got acquainted on-line. Keep in mind that kidnap could mean a forcible abduction or a kid running away from home with a boy/girl friend, or anything in between.

[BiPolarBear]

ummm ... it's depend on each person ...
A lot of people, not just from Indo, they thought havin date on internet is not for serious. If they were, like u mentioned before, "for weirdos or desperados " ..

But a bit disagree with that .
For me, having internet dating is wider network to know someone else better. knowing another culture and learn it, so i could introspection of myself. I always be serious if i made a decision for having a date by internet. Well, perhaps u should try to find another indo man who doesnt feel ashamed with your relationship.

Good Luck

Thanks for the reply, deMargie :)

My bf (although he's not Indo) is perfectly fine with the way we meet (in fact, we're both proud of it). I'm just curious as most of Indo people I meet here (I'm from Australia btw, but I do have Indo background) are appalled when they knew how we (me and my bf) met while most other people are more open-minded.
So I was thinking maybe it's because internet dating isn't that common there.

But yea, I guess like you said, it depends on each person..

[angelapowiro]

if me, i have to meet that person to really feel if he is serious or not.
and I believe if he comes already visiting my country then ask to meet soon i already feel it begins to be serious.
But of course you have to see the person through cam too.

[kingwilly]

Are you any relation to another online polar bear identity also from Australia ?

[waarmstrong]

I'm proud to say that I'm going to meet someone from this forum on January hehehe and that is the Best decision I've ever made
*and of course, I am not a weirdo in my real life lol :o

January -- I would say that the jury is still out on the best decision verdict.

[BiPolarBear]

Are you any relation to another online polar bear identity also from Australia ?

Well, I was inspired by my white polar bear plush toy sitting next to me when I named my account :smile: And I wasn't referred to this site by anyone (well I read about this site but I dunno the writer) so I take it I'm not related to the other polar bear..

[BiPolarBear]

I'm proud to say that I'm going to meet someone from this forum on January hehehe and that is the Best decision I've ever made
*and of course, I am not a weirdo in my real life lol :o

All the best then, hartina :peace:

[83cece83]

never tried internet dating officially, but i met one of my ex bf tru the net. We've been friends for 3 or 4 years, then when i came to visit my family in nz, he came to see me.. back to Indo, we decided to be more serious but LDR sucks ^^

[deMargie]

I'm proud to say that I'm going to meet someone from this forum on January hehehe and that is the Best decision I've ever made
*and of course, I am not a weirdo in my real life lol :o

Well, glad to hear that :)
still lookin for the same aim LOL ...
Proudly i say that some indo women take it seriously :) - well, not all .. i mean .. many indo women did it just for fun as well :D or... they just wanted to "taste" bule. Which is for me its a fool reason.

For BipolarBear, from your story, i guess i would say : GO ON, u are the one who have the relationship with him, not them. No matter where u found ur man, just believe to yourself. And make sure he is also serious with u .

[The Von]

The world is your oyster, the internet just opened it up. One has so many more choices via internet dating, which should make it easier to find the right boyfriend/girlfriend.
It may work for some and not for others, enjoy and hope it works for you.

[Nyonya Couch]

There's nothing wrong getting to know someone from internet dating sites, since I was one of them and a couple years later we got married. The thing that concerns me is that when someone thinks just because they've been communicating for a while through internet, sms, mobile phones (and other devices) without actually seeing the other person being called a relationship.

[exiledgooner]

i know two indonesian girls who married someone they met on the net

both still married. not my choice but seems to be working for them

[rabbit_39]

Nothing wrong with it, as someone says. Just remember that whether it fails or succeeds for YOU, is irrelevant from whether it succeeds or fails with someone else. Just because it works for all of your friends (or a few) doesn't mean it will work for you.

[cup1981]

I met my wife online, and CRAIGSLIST at that lol. It is a great source, but you must screen them before meeting them.

[mayasaputri]

Thanks for the reply, deMargie :)

My bf (although he's not Indo) is perfectly fine with the way we meet (in fact, we're both proud of it). I'm just curious as most of Indo people I meet here (I'm from Australia btw, but I do have Indo background) are appalled when they knew how we (me and my bf) met while most other people are more open-minded.
So I was thinking maybe it's because internet dating isn't that common there.

But yea, I guess like you said, it depends on each person..

Maybe for some people (like my parents for example), if I told them I met someone online and going to date him, they would be freaked out, because they don't know much about the internet and the technology. But I can see, mostly people (in the big cities) are more well-tech (blackberry users are everywhere in Jakarta, it's just amazing), so they consider it's fine for someone to hook up through an online site. Some of my friends doing that. I know someone who met her husband through internet dating and they are happily married for more than 10 years.

[angelapowiro]

I met my wife online, and CRAIGSLIST at that lol. It is a great source, but you must screen them before meeting them.

even if we met people from holy places like church, ministry, mosque, temple, etc...we still have to screen :D

[SundayMonday]

ummm ... it's depend on each person ...
Well, perhaps u should try to find another indo man who doesnt feel ashamed with your relationship.
Good Luck
I thought Bipolarbear said she met her boyfriend from internet dating site, and she's proud to say that it is probably one of the best decision she has ever made. so why should she try to find another indo man? sorry, kinda lost here....:confused:

[nene_chan]

well, i met my bf through internet. because we lived in the same city, we were really close.. and, we've been dating for two and a half years (till now)..

[agultom9]

just a tip: nothing is real until you meet in real life.

[mimpi buruk]

it's also a confindence thing. Some people (especially myself) are very shy and uncomfortable in public places. If there had been no internet i would never have met any Indo girl in my whole life because i am simply too shy to approach one. So then the internet is a godsend because it is easy to "meet" without meeting face to face initially and therefore you don't have to feel shy. It is also a way to get to know somebody to a certain extend and let somebody know your personality first instead of having that person judge you from your looks.

[vania~]

I'm kinda curious, is it common for people in Indo to meet others from internet dating site? And would they be ashamed to admit it (for fear that others might think that they are so desperate to meet someone)?

I met my boyfriend from internet dating site, and I'm proud to say that it is probably one of the best decision I've ever made. Though some (narrow-minded) people thought that internet dating sites are just for desperados and socially-retarded (or weirdos) who have zero chance in meeting someone in real world.

What's your opinion, people? :madgrin:

yeah it is common, there's many indo people met their bf/gf or husbands/wifes via online, i think its cool to find the special someone over internet, its like looking for a needle in the haystack
well i guess we can't assume that people who do internet dating are desperate to meet someone, bcoz we dont know the truth maybe they have limited time to go out for socialize, or other reasons...

i dont do internet dating simply because its kinda confusing for me * i did that before :p *, i prefer to meet face to face...
but i found cool friends over internet :)

[kingwilly]

So then the internet is a godsend because it is easy to "meet" without meeting face to face initially and therefore you don't have to feel shy.

PakTifatul agrees with you.

[roti bakar]

PakTifatul agrees with you.

Did you know his today tweet...he becomes one of the member of alay generation.
This man is unbelievable :)

[JakResRev]

What's unbelievable is that he still has a job.

Concerning online dating, my friends met 5 years ago online and they have 2 kids and a bright future.